My son is very demanding. He is one of the hardest tempered babies I have ever seen! He does not like to play on the floor alone (he was coliky so I was always holding him), and is not crawling yet (he is 8 weeks preemie), so he get very frusterated and throws horrible fits. I try and help him, but I seem never to get anything done! When I pick him up during these fits he kicks and screams and arches his back, so I just put him down and let him finish. This is not working though, his fits can last a long time. Any suggestions?
2006-09-30 07:05:31 · 21 answers · asked by Wes's Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Hes looking for something that interests him, hes bored with the way everything is. This will likely go on into maturity, its just another one of many human traits that vary in intensity from person to person. Find something new for him to play with, something you previously wouldn't allow him to. But don't give it to him, leave it laying somewhere and put him near it. He'll propably need something new to look at regulary. When he done with something, take it away and hide it for a while. It will be new again after a while. Someone miht have better advice on entertaining him, but thats how I appease my son. I let him play with my cell phone or DVDs, things he just normally isn't allowed to mess with. Kids are very investigative and will play with and look at a toy until they know it well, then they put it down and never touch it again. Thats why many toys you buy him will sit in the corner and never be touched, he knows all about it already. Also, some parents thing when their child is putting something in their mouth they're trying to taste it. This isn't the case, the toungue is covered with thousands of nerves, making it very sensitive to textures and shapes. They use their toung and lips to further examine things. If small enough, they'll put the whole thing in their mouth, which of course is dangerous. I hope this helps, I have a boy going on 11 months now.
2006-09-30 07:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a grandson, who started the same thing at 10 or 11 months. Up until then, he was easygoing and smiled all the time. Now he is 11 years old and we have a serious problem with his anger. He is under a doctor's care. I won't go into all that. I have another grandson ( 17 now ) who had colic for the first 7 months of his life and he screamed all the time. His doc told us that since he had to be held all the time just about since he was born that he learned that if he screamed he would get picked up. He told us to let him scream as much as we could and he would eventually get over it. And it worked. After we got him out of that he was a wonderful baby. So at this point, there's really no way to tell. I would see a doctor about it, and make sure it's nothing physical and if it isn't, let him scream for a while.
2006-09-30 07:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by country nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an 8 week premature son also, Those eight weeks he spent in the hospital gaining weight. In those eight weeks of hospital time, he was starved, poked with needles, skin ripped off his body and I got him home finally, and he wanted only me. He cried all the time, very frustrating. Try not to be frustrated. Especially when you have something else to do. (Very Hard!!) THEY KNOW! I am old, when we are young we think so many other things are important, Let dinner be late, let the dust fall where it may. Your baby wants you now. Take deep breaths and be calm. Let him feel your calm. I found a sampler that says it all "Settle down cobwebs, dust go to sleep, I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep." We need to make our children priorities if we possibly can. God Bless you Both
2006-09-30 07:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by frankielove64015 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure they are temper tantrums and not something else? He's not hurting?
Ten months is young to be having temper tantrums -- at ten months, the babies don't usually have that strong of their own wills yet. At the same time, ten months is kind of late for him not to even be crawling yet. My son was preemie, too, but they usually catch up unless the premature birth left some lasting health effects like spina bifida, lung problems or such.
What does your pediatrician say?
2006-09-30 07:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by bugnscout 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My daughter used to throw the worst tantrums at 9 months old. She would beat her head on the floor, kick, hit, and scream! I was so afraid that she was going to hurt herself, I would sit by her on the floor and beg her to stop, while holding my hand under her head so she wouldn't smack it on the floor! My neighbor, an older nanny, watched this one day, and told me to leave her on the floor, and let her go! Leave the room, and if she followed me, go to another room.
The child smacked her forehead on the floor, ceramic tile I might add. That was the last time she did that! She stopped screaming, and was stunned she had hurt herself. After that, when she threw tantrums, it was in the crib with her little butt, until she stopped. After a few weeks, she stopped.
Hope that helps you some, cause good luck, the whining comes next!!! Don't give in!!!
2006-09-30 07:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Christi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son is 11 months old and throws horrible temper tantrums. Trust me, 10 months is NOT too young. My son's been doing this for 2-3 months now. I just let him cry when I know he's just doing it to get attention or get what he wants. You can't always give in to your baby. Sometimes if I can't stand the crying but I know I can't give in to him I put him in his crib, and after a few minutes he'll entertain himself in there and a lot of times he'll fall asleep bc he tires him out from crying. Good luck!
2006-09-30 08:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he does this, you should just let him cry and throw and fit. Don't pay any attention to him because obviously he knows that is he does that, he gets what he wants. He will stop after a few times of realizing you are not going ot give him what he is crying for if he does that.
2006-09-30 07:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as a child get a raction from you they are getting what they want. If you give them negative reaction they will continue to do the things to get it. If your give them a reaction when they are doing negative things they will continue to do those things in order to get your attention. So if you dont give them a reaction when they are throwing a fit you will in the end be winning. If this fit starts in a store, leave your cart where ever it is and go home. Give him/her a time out and go back later to the store to do your shopping. Never Never give in to negative behaivor it will not be a good outcome. Next time just let it run its course as long as He/she isnt hurting them selves.
2006-09-30 07:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by lothlorien30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was 4 weeks early and is almost 11 months old and he does the same thing. he has a horrible temper. we're not sure what to do either. all i do is tell him to stop in a very stern tone of voice. at this age he doesn't really understand, but at least he sees that i'm doing something about his behavior.
2006-09-30 07:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried bursting into song with something like 'the wheels on the Bus'? Distracting him in this way might make him laugh, or make him stop long enough to think 'OK, mummy's gone mad, but I'll watch for a bit'.
I really don't know what else to say to you honey, other than good luck! I wish you all the best!
2006-09-30 07:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋