we met 3 years ago through online dating n last year got married irresspective of d diffrences n family oppositions...i am disabled n life is diffrent for me but he cant understand and he is always complaing that after marriage he never got the chance to work hard or make something for us because my family visits us too much and am too involved with them and i dont care what happens behind me...he expects me to do all household chores,cook food,do well in my study n also help him professionally so we can double our income...i get tired very easily n cannot really do everything...he works from home which means he constantly nags for whatever i do, forget helping me...keeps complaing abt my folks....my mind is going to blow off...i cant think straight i need to make a firm choice what to do...its just a year to my marriage n he literally rules me...i dunno whr i am going or what i should do...either go back to my home country n try n work it out or stay here in london or saperate???
2006-09-30 07:01:13 · 7 answers · asked by jewel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
priorities first -
do you love this person
are you willling to do what you can(your part) to make this relationship work....for it takes work(daily)
communication - sharing of feelings is the key
really look at your family - is there need for them to be there daily? Would once a week not be just as sufficient?
If your family is welcome there, then his should be too.
Opendoor policy is best.
If feel you cannot work outside of the home to make additional income, find ways to make income(legally) from your home....this will take some of the financial burden off of him.
Seek ways for you to be able to interact more as a couple.
Seek family counseling if needed.
If this relationship means something to you - you are the only one who can do your part to make it work.
Best wishes!
2006-09-30 07:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are confused and cannot think straight, I would suggest counseling. A counselor will help you explore your feelings and help you decide what it is you want to do. They dont tell you what to do but they help you think things through, exploring the areas that you want to explore. I think you have time in that you dont have to make this decision today, right? Then consult someone that can counsel you. Good luck.
2006-09-30 14:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by kathleeng1223 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home to family wherever that is. This is an emotionally abusive man who may well have picked you because of your disability and ease of control. Get out now.
2006-09-30 14:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is no life for ANYONE; cut your losses and get out NOW before you waste even more of your life with this totally cold-hearted and uncaring person. You DESERVE BETTER than this, and the sooner you get away from him the sooner your life will improve!
2006-09-30 14:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up to him and tell him to get off of your *** ,if he is bitching about your parents he must be a jerk he is probley ashame of him self and dont want them to see him for what he is dump him
2006-09-30 14:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay in london
2006-09-30 14:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the prick he aint no good
2006-09-30 14:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by rangerider223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋