help me be popular?

Question

Help me please?
I need serious answers please. How can I make myself not annoying? Most people at my school don't like me, and I need to know how to make myself nicer, less annoying, and more popular. Even my best friend admitted to me that she thinks I'm annoying! Recently, we were walking home, and I asked this boy a somewhat rude and annoying question, and she said to me "You're not very nice...". I even hate myself. How can I remind myself to stop being so mean, weird , and annoying? I would love to be the kind of person that most people like; the kind of person who people say "Oh, her? She's such a sweetie!" or "She's realy nice, I like her." Or something like that. Please help me I really need this. All I need is to be nice, less annoying, honest, and a little popular. Please give me some real tips. I need serious answers,and serious help. I try to be myself, but people don't seem to like it when I act myself. I try to conform to wut ppl want, but ineed help. Id rather live someone elses life

Additional Details

4 days ago
not my own life. I'd rather be happy than be myself, because everyone hates the way the real me is...

4 days ago
I know I am supposed to think about what I want to at like, but I hang out with a group of a lot of different people. Some of the girls I hang w/ are emo/goth, some are mainstream, and some are preps. I'm not completely sure which of them are real friends, or just aquaintances. I need to know- what actions can I take besides just sorting out what i need to do- I need to know what i can actually do to actually remember to be nice and not annoying. Do I just think about what people would think if i said this, or if i said that? Do i just keep quiet and let people just walk all over me like they already do?I need some serious, good advice and help...

Answer 1

ur fine they way u are just think 2 time b4 u say something

v4m

Answer 2

The problem you have is perhaps most teenagers in their lives face too. All what you need in this cruel world to be strong, intelligent and famous is by being Practical. You talk about friends, well honey, to tell you the truth, there is actually nothing in this world called A Friend. We were all born alone and will die alone. Our future in the mercy of our own hands, it is upon us how we shape it.
You have your relatives, family members like your father, mother and brother etc.. Well, those are all enough for a perfect human being to survive. About friends and company, well they are secondary requirments and will change in course of time.
Besides, being popular is more and more painfull than being 'just an ordinary person' Trust Me.
Live your own life, if you do want to be popular then aim for the top and not among your friend circle, do not care about what people think or say about you because as long as you have the support of your family you have everything.
True Facts:
1. Marie Curie did not have so much friends and was not so popular, but what the hey, she became the first woman to win the Nobel Prize.

2. Columbus was unpopular and unknown untill he proved the world that there is a new world in the west.

3. Abraham Lincoln's past career would have made anyone speculate that he was an all time looser, but finally he became the president of the USA.

4. All the movie stars you see now all over the world and many other great people.

Answer 3

Hello! I believe that the first step you should take is to love yourself. There is almost no way that others will truly care for you if you don't love yourself first. People can tell whether you do or not, and you even said that you'd rather be happy than yourself and that you hate yourself. Take some time and explore options, find out who you are, and be confident in that.

Second, I know it is difficult, but put less emphasis on what others say and think about you. A lot of the time, other people have things going on in their lives that have absolutely nothing to do with you, but it affects how they react to you. Now, if you know that you were being rude/annoying in a situation, perhaps thinking about how you say things, or your attitude when saying something before you say it to someone will be helpful. A lot of messages get misinterpreted. It is not always you that is the source of a problem.

You may also have slight anxiety or symptoms of depression which affect how you are perceiving yourself r others (I also have this), so it may be in your best interest to speak to a counselor or doctor before it possibly develops into something more severe.

Overall, keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with you, you are who you are, and as long as you stay true to that, then those who really care and love you will be there no matter what.

Answer 4

Okay I want to apologize first for how others treat you. It's something that gets better with time. I know how you feel and it's something you have to learn. First clothes and being thin are not going to help with social graces. This is what you need. You'd be surprised how many movie stars and public figures go to school for this. You need to learn conversation, charm and a little bit about confidence. People are drawn to others that know themselves. Be aware. Be alert to your surroundings. Listen to what others say. Hold you tongue when you want to ridicule. You just have to master yourself. So much of this is difficult to do but not impossible. Try using your wit and mind instead of just giving up. Ask your best friend what causes her this annoyance. Try to work on yourself. Also ask her what she likes about you. These are things you can expand upon.
Try asking you mother or family member about how it was for them in school. So many parents had the same difficulties in school as their kids. That's why mentors are great.
And remember no one is loved or liked by everyone. Try to understand yourself better and don't take too much of what others say to heart. Right now you are still finding yourself. This isn't the real you yet. It takes time and work but with maturity it will get better.

Answer 5

Your annoying to people because that is how you get attention, (albeit negative attention), it still serves your purpose. Unless, of course, you are lashing out at people BECAUSE they walk all-over you, then that is a different matter altogether.
Without more information about yourself, (Are you at least "acceptable" looking?)
You can focus on NOT wanting anymore attention.
Law of life:
Q: What is the one thing EVERYONE on this planet wants?
A: What they can't have!
So..., applying what you now know to what you want makes your focus be to just watch! Be an observant "watcher" of all the different social scenes you seem to mix up with.
(You actually serve a purpose of all the different groups you hang out with..., they can claim they are open minded, because as a prep they hang out "a little" with you, the emo/goth..., get it? And visa versa!)
But even better, change your focus from annoyer, to be known for being "Great Attitude Girl", or "Sees-the -good-in-everyone-Girl!", or "Help-you-do-whatever-you-want-Girl", or my personal favorite, VOLUNTEER! Take up a cause and volunteer your efforts and develop your socially accepting side! The fact that you seek resolve to your dilemma means you are more than half way to accomplishing what you seek. Way to go Girl!

Answer 6

Don't worry about people liking you, there is nothing you can do to change people, some people you just wont click with. I agree with the other poster, watch what you say, and think about what you say before you say it. I'll bet there are people who like you but they may not be as popular as you'd like them to be. Think of the ones who do like you and be thankful you have a friend. Don't worry so much about being popular. If you relax and just be yourself, people will like you for who you are. But remember, not everyone is going to like you, and that's o.k. The most important thing is to just be yourself, the person who knows certain things are annoying or mean. If you know you are doing things to offend people or make them not like you, then stop doing those things. Again, relax and just be yourself. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Your solution is simple. Speak less, listen more. Practice saying, "oh that's great...." and 'You have every right to be proud of yourself for that." also if someone tells you something that sounds like they are complaining say "that sounds like it has been really hard." Make a point of complimenting people- "that's a pretty sweater" or, "wow, that new haircut looks great" don't over do it- just say it once and let the conversation move on. Be nice and people will be nice back.

Answer 8

what is it that people think is annoying about you? is it mostly just things that you say? just try to sit quiet...listen to others and their interactions. learn from others. think about what you say and how you say it. don't try too hard though. you have to be yourself.

the "popular" girls in my high school 6 years later don't have a college degree and have gained weight, some have children already. being popular isn't all its cracked up to be.

just relax! if people think you're annoying...why do you want to hang out w/ them? don't worry...college is a clean slate. start fresh. don't know how old you are but hopefully you can get out of there soon!

Answer 9

ppl should like you for who you are. Just think - in a few years you'll be put of school and you won't ever see those 'popular' kids again. And when you do ........ well........ they aren't that 'popular' any more. Try getting a hobbie. In High school no
one in my class like me. So i started going around with persons outside of my year and class. Slowly i made a set of friends who like me despite my annoying attitude.

Answer 10

i became in no way that nicely-known...yet from journey it is lots to do with self assurance. Yeah, maximum of them are goodlooking and function a mix of being academic, athletic or imaginitive. i think of the main efficient component is self assurance considering makes you outgoing and you may positioned your self available and meet new friends. human beings tend to gravitate in direction of constructive stable looking human beings, which would be an unlucky component given those human beings are not consistently the nicest or smartest human beings in this planet. yet hello it is the way the international works!

Answer 11

I think your trying to hard just be yourself?I'm in the 8th grade and perdy popular but not on the top? just be yourself be funny and out going?That rele all i can say
good luck I will answer more as more details come k?
good luck