how do you stop loving someone or stop being in love?

Question

pl. don't write about holding them in that special place in your heart, etc, 'cause that's not healthy. if somebody's no good for you you have to forget it alltogehter. and i do have things that keep me preoccupied but how do i take control of my emotions. not a day goes by that i dont think about him and i'm always keeping myself busy.

thanks.

Answer 1

What works for me: stay away from this person and try to stop thinking about him. First write down on paper why you need to stop loving this man. Write down why this is necessary and in times of doubt look at what you have written.

Then try to think of other things and other people. Get out, don't stay at home. Try out new activities. Get a dog. Avoid sad movies but see comedies instead. Get some fresh air and excercise and best of all: fall in love with someone else.

Answer 2

rationalize. let your reason take over your emotions by forcing yourself to look at everything, from the start to the time it ended. ask yourself hard questions, admittedly with the benefit of hindsight. but then again, so what? your purpose is to find a reason to want to heal and, finding that, finding the way to heal.

start by asking yourself: what were the things that made you love him and why? in hindsight, were they realistic? were your expectations realistic, as well? (get the drift?)

from what you said above, you already have two ways to heal: you already said "he's no good" and you have things that keep you "preoccupied". you still find it hard to control your emotions because you haven't found the reasons to cope with the memories and live them down. i think rationalizing things to yourself will help you get on with your life and heal.

hope this helps.

Answer 3

Love Love Love It's the strongest emotion a man can have. Live with him in your heart , pray for your love. If your love is real you'll end up contacting him . And he will return it . Only when your ready. However if you have doubt about this their no room for your dream to come true!

Answer 4

If you ACTUALLY love them and it's not just a crush or infatuation, you will NEVER completely forget about them. Never. Give that idea up right now. As for getting over them and not loving them or being obsessed anymore, only time and/or a new love will start that process.

Answer 5

If you truly are in love with him than you will never stop loving him. If you fall out of love with someone than it means you were never in love with them in the first place. Sorry i can't help you the way you need... i'm going through the same thing♥

Answer 6

You can never stop loving someone,because if you do you never loved that person in the first place,because love is kind,gentle,and patient,and it is the greatest gift of all,because it last forever 1 Corinthians 13

Answer 7

take a good LOGICAL look at the situation then at the big picture .take your time while you look, allow the emotions to run their course(its a process).remain neutral/logical, accept your logic when your 100% sure its actually logic/real.if you do this you shouldnt have a problem(recomend reading Zen mind beginners mind by ShunRyu Suzuki.its a good book for learning to deal with your self)

Answer 8

Is it unconditional? or romantic love? If unconditional and he is bad for you, then you should probable leave him even if it is hard. If he is a health person then stay, unless he does not love you. That could make him leave you. If it's been 18 months sense you meet then you probable will love him for ever, unless something happens. If romantic then it probable won't last.

Answer 9

why is this in books and authors?

Answer 10

did you just answer your own question?