I stuggled for years with not being able to say I was either a Lesbian or Straight. I wouldn't allow myself to accept that there was a place in the middle that was real - At the time i remember being told ''it was trendy to be Bi'' or ''Bi people were sexual devients who wanted their cake...etc''
I love women, I still fancy men. But I do not want to enjoy them both, together at the same time - I have nothing against those that do - just not my thing.
It would be great to meet other women out there who feel the same....
Are there any ''make bi-friends'' sites out there????
2006-09-30 06:07:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I hear ya! I've had similar problems with being bi. The lesbians don't trust you and the straight guys think you're gonna make all their fantasies come true. It's bullsh*t. I joined a bi group here but man, they were a weird bunch! It was like a f*cking Star Treck convention!
Anyway, you can make friends with me if you like! *offers hand*
2006-09-30 06:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Try out ALT.com
There are many other places out there as well. Maybe what you want to do is look for women that are strictly lesbians and look for guys that are straight - that way it should lessen what they want to do.
Dont be shy about speaking your mind about what you want and do not want to do. Maybe you need to experience a little of the S&M community. With the S&M community, control over what happens is a very big issue - and defining what is and what is not allowed is a very big thing before anything ever begins.
BTW, S&M is not all leather and whips - investigate it - there is a LOT more...
2006-09-30 06:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A threesome with two women wherein they make love to each other for his enjoyment, then ignore each other and both make love to him is an extremely common straight male fantasy. As you can tell from several of the answers you received, gays are no different from straights when it comes to anti-bi bigotry, both assume that Bis care about nothing but sex, and therefor would be totally indiscriminate in their behavior. They reject as absurd the remotest possibility that anyone could ever be attracted to someone for reasons other than the style of their genitalia, claiming you are worth less as a person for not letting them assign you a label that makes them comfortable. As a French philosopher once wrote: "I did not choose to be who, or what, I am, but since it is me I will neither deny nor apologize for it." Ignore the ones who say you have to make a choice, only you get to decide that for yourself. Ignore the ones who say you can't have a lasting relationship, I've had monogamous relationships with both men and women, short and long term. It your life not theirs, so live it to the max!
2006-09-30 10:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by rich k 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this - a threesome is a powerful male fantasy - the psychology to explain it is worth a dissertation, but the reality of sharing an intimate experience with two people simultaneously can be really stressful and a big turn off. Just because you are capable of being attracted to either sex does not automatically mean that you want to be intimate with both at the same time!
2006-09-30 06:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Avondrow 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Amen honey with the 3somes statement....I get agrivated with guys that think just because im lesbian that I like 3 somes 2 girls and a guy.... with a guy just watching... UGGG ... that to me is so sick.... why to people automaticaly think that Gay is just about sex.. it isnt it is about love and commitment just like straight is .. no different... just we love who we love.... UGGGGGGG dont get me started...
I dont know about "make bi friends site... mostly because I am full Lesbian but it would be nice if you find a place like that for all the other Bi folks here if you post it when you find it...
Good luck with that.
Blessings,
RiahWillow
2006-09-30 06:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There isnt anything wrong with that hun. and of course there are sites out there for others like you. You have not said whether or not you have been with a woman... it is possible to have a relationship with both sexes. just ignore those that are calling you confused.
Before i came out fully, i was living with the father of my cjildren, and most of my friends have had at least one sexual experience with a person of their same sex. dxont worry, you are normal.
2006-09-30 07:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bi's are always getting discriminated against. Even in the glbt sections.
I wish all people woudl realize that we are the majority. We make up 62% of the population and we are sick and tired of being 9% from gay and 32 % from straights whipping post.
There are a hell of alot more of us than you. SO STFU ya damn Bigots.
2006-09-30 06:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I find it strange that when one says one is bi it needs an additional disclaimer - "I'm bisexual, but not one of *those* bisexuals". Being a bi girl I find that people assume that when you say "bi" you actually mean "straight but will have a snog with a girl if drunk". That's just not the case.
Heterosexuals think we're too gay, homosexuals think we're too straight, we can't win.
Internet-wise if you like indie rock try the Internet's only bisexual indie-rock-loving group: bothsidesnow (http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bothsidesnow or http://www.bothsidesnow.co.uk - and they didn't even pay me to say that).
2006-09-30 06:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by sarcasticquotemarks 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 17:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several sites on the net regarding this. Just start searching and you would be amazed of the many different ones.
Good luck
2006-09-30 06:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by brock 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋