She hits me for no reason and later when shes calm down she says I can't help it, it's my pregnant mood swings, I said damn when you hit me it really hurts and shes says I'm sorry I love you, But I didn't know love hurts. I never hit her back but should I to prevent her from doing this or should I just leave her and file a divorce and let her raise our son.
2006-09-30 06:05:52 · 20 answers · asked by Nice Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not only okay, but it's important that you leave anyone who's abusive. Love is not supposed to hurt.
Get the law involved. File a report on her. I don't care if she is blaming it on hormones. Everyone is in control of their own actions.
Also, don't just leave her alone with the child. If she treats you this way, imagine her being left with the baby!, especially if she develops post partum depression!
Seek custody of the baby. If you have police reports against her that will work in your favor.
I have seen what happens to children who live with an abusive parent. Protect yourself and your baby.
2006-09-30 06:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing to trigger the hits??? I urge you to stay with your wife, love her, and get her the help she needs. There's a bundle of help out there, if you look in the right places. Also, don't use this as a cop out to your marriage. Your son needs you to help his mother make a home, where everyone gets the love and protection he or she needs. Your marriage is worth fighting for. It is priceless, especially your children. I know! My parents divorced when I was 8 years old. It left me scarred for life.
Know you're not alone. Many parents are staying in a marriage that is a lot less than ideal, for the sake of their children. They'll be grown and gone before you know. Then you may still consider leaving, if you've done everything in your power to make a better marriage.
2006-09-30 07:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...and let her raise our son."
Okay, now I know you're lying about something. Why is she hitting you? Are you threatening her? Do you work? Does she need psychiatric help for dealing with stress and anger? Does she have many hormone shifts and any support through them?
If you really thought she was a "danger" to anyone, you wouldn't consider leaving your unborn son with her when you leave. I'm not a therapist, but I find it interesting the only time she is attempting to hit you is when she knows a man should definitely not try to hit her back.... I wonder what else is going on in your home.
2006-09-30 06:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she hits you, she's going to beat the heck out of your sweet, helpless little baby. Imagine it: the baby is crying because that's just what babies do sometimes, and it gets frustrating-she can't control herself with you, so chances are she'll really go off on your baby. And that's dangerous. I say YOU take custody of the baby or stay with her so you can protect your child. PLEASE don't leave her because then your poor, helpless baby will have a really sad, helpless life. That baby needs you for protection. This is making me cry just thinking about it....
2006-09-30 06:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by missy s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if she only does it while she's pregnant, but if it happens more than that then you should leave but don't let her raise your son because shell probably hit him.
2006-09-30 06:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one will hit for no reason.Maybe U did something thats why.Now u can also ask her doctor,maybe she has stress or something.Leave @ divorce her wont help for now.give her time but after the pregnancy @ she wont change then do what in ur mind.Just be sure Ur son will live w/ U for protection.
2006-09-30 06:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by jeayuma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should not let her hit you OR hit her back either
talk to her OBGYN & tell her what's going on
your wife's harmones are all out of wack & perhaps
the Dr. can help
good luck
2006-09-30 06:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please dont hit her but she needs help I would leave her to teach her a lession ,being pregnant dont make you hit others ,that is a excuse ,no she dont need to hit you I would leave her and show her she needs help ,because she does what if she hits this baby when it comes please make her get help .
2006-09-30 06:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she hit you again you will call the police on her, and when the baby is born, you will take your child. and show she is a Violet person. have police records showing this.
2006-09-30 06:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
like i said before leave the bitc* she shouldnt be hitting you and dont hit her back
2006-09-30 06:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by rangerider223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋