This is the scenario ->
I join college blooming with confidence and make new friends, make a solid 1st impression and arouse ppls' interest in me. A flamboyant, handsome guy joins college a few days later and I start observing that the attention I once commanded is being reduced. Then, the shy me starts coming out again. I stop interacting as much as I used to, peoples' interest slowly diminishes. When in class, I answer all the questions asked by the teachers. This flamboyant guy and his friends start passing comments on me and I feel a dip in my confidence level. I never talk abt myself and my positive points maybe coz I dont have much confidence to defend myself if I go wrong somewer.
This guy and his friends even seem to b*tch a lot abt me on my back and the reactions I get from people coz of what he says to them is bad. I have lost some of my confidence. I cant talk to girls coz they're his friends and dont know what he might be b*tching abt me to them.
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2006-09-30 06:01:38 · 9 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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Surprisingly, my seniors and teachers hold a very high opinion abt me. But the guy and his frnds dont. They think I'm a complete idiot and sadly, the class does give a thought abt their opinion. He's charasmatic and has a great personality. And me, low on confidence and unable to stand on my 2 feet fearing the reaction from these people.
From last week round, I have started telling myself that Public opinion doesnt matter and it seems I am gaining some of my lost confidence back. But Getting along with sub-ordinates too is important right? I think the damage is already done. How do I win back my confidence, my image, the respect of others and not get dominated?
2006-09-30 06:02:19 · update #1
ever see two male dogs. Stay away from the pack
2006-09-30 06:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
public opinion matters,act like u did when u 1st joined collage.give people a chance 2 know u,if they still walk blind behind that guy then u dont need these kind of ppl.and i'm sure u'll find a better bunch and the others will be begging 2 be ur friend :)
good luck
2006-09-30 06:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep doing the best that you can, and you have to gain your confidants back, why would you let some one have so much power over you, who cares what people says, that is what they want to do, is bring you down, my thought is that they are jealous of you. so hold your head up, find new circles to hang out with. Join clubs, keep busy. they will start to leave you alone.
2006-09-30 06:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi u either go directly talk to him and make frnds or put him under ur fire zone.
give him a clear cut understanding tht u dont care abt what he is bitching behind u .
try to give him an impression tht just being "flamboyant" is not enough to be noticed by u.
2006-09-30 06:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by kiran 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you think this guy thinks about you this much? you need to just stay away from him, and focus on something else.... dont allow yourself to be controlled and made feel less a person, some people thrive on being able to dominate people, if you dont let it show that this is bothering you then it wont be fun for them anymore... seperate your self from them, have your own interests.... be a leader and not a follower.... good luck to you, hope things get better for ya...
2006-09-30 06:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by browneyedmomof3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask out one of the girls you like if they like you then they wont care what the one kid was telling them about if anything at all is being tolld.
2006-09-30 06:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't please everybody. Be yourself and forget about that dude... focus on whats good for you... if he's bitching about you it's probaly because there's a bit of jeolousy and lack of confidence comming from his side... Don't worry so much dude... worry kills confidence... goodluck
2006-09-30 06:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by 411sponge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a really good question, unfortunately i don't have an answer sorry
2006-09-30 06:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by mateli6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-30 06:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋