hey, i was wondering if someone can help me? i just broke up with my boyfriend because of the way he treats me, and he is really mean to me, i am 5 months pregnant and he always controlled me... he got a youtube account online, and he like had a bunch of girls saved on his account, and it showed that he looked at a bunch of porn and stuff.. do you think its bad that i broke up with him? what should i do....
2006-09-30 05:45:55 · 17 answers · asked by hotty 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I broke up with my controlling boyfriend when I was 6 weeks pregnant......it's hard and it sucks and all that you can imagine, but it was the right thing to do. Staying with him just because you're pregnant isn't a good thing for you or your baby. Hopefully you can work things out with him enough for both of you to be involved in your baby's life, but if not then you have to consider what's best for your baby and if him not being in your life is best, that's what you should do.
2006-09-30 05:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for confirmation that you did the right thing, YOU GOT IT! Should have left the guy I was with when he first beat me when I was 4 months pregnant. Talk about controlling! I am now 49 yrs. and alot smarter, with grown kids. I ended up on this web site seeing this question by accident (or by fate)? You know how he is and you love him?!? You probably miss him by now?!? Thinking about having a baby on your own?!? Unfortunately no one can tell you what to do, you will choose your path and live with the results of choosing that path. You won't be right or wrong. Your choice will be what is right for you at the moment. Eventually you will make a Permanent "Correct" decision. You will experience a lot of heartache before you get there (or not), if you KNOW you are RIGHT. Can you ask your Mom? I am always giving my 22 yr old daughter good relationship advise that she Never listens too. And that is okay. Everyone has to live and learn. I do end up being right, but she still has to make her own choices and so do you. It will work out.
2006-09-30 06:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by frankielove64015 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make sure you're going to have a well paying job after your baby is born so you can take care of you and your child, and then sue his worthless *** for child support. You did the right thing by leaving him if he treats you badly. No one deserves to be treated like dirt. Well....maybe he does. You and your baby will be better off without someone who is abusive.
His looking at porn isn't a sign of deviancy and it's okay until he makes a regular habit out of it and starts talking to other girls online and having cyber sex. Then he needs help and it's time for you to go because he's probably only a step away from cheating on you.
Good luck sweetie, it's hard to be a single mom, but I've done it, and there are millions of other women out there that do it, so I think you'll be okay. =)
2006-09-30 05:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think that its wrong thet you broke up with him. If you were truly unhappy then it was goog that you left. its good that you had the strength to leave a controlling relationship, who knows what he'd be like in a few days, months or years!. even though you still are carrying his child. you should just make arrangments with him so they can have "playdates" do your child does not grow up not knowing anything about his father. Porn is a natural thing for guys to do. it doesnt mean anything. All men do it. when it becomes exessive though thats when there may be a problem. adn who knows abotu all the girls on his online account. its good that you left. it was purely your decision. which was the right one. just set up playdates with him
but you will want to put him down as the father to collect some child support.
and dont give you baby his last name whatever you do! you'll regret it! =p
2006-09-30 06:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not wrong to leave him. He needs to grow up before he gets to have anything to do with your or your child. Anybody can be a sperm donor, but it takes a special MAN to be a father. He's still a little boy. You just concentrate on doing what's best for this baby you've got on the way. If he's looking at porn or talking to other girls, he's obviously not ready for a family. And if he's mean to you, then how do you know he wouldn't be mean to the baby? It takes guys a long time to realize how babies need to be treated (my 25 year old husband still struggles with this). And believe me, if your boyfriend ever hurt your baby, you would probably (or you should) kill him. Your baby needs to be THE most important thing to you.
2006-09-30 08:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are pregnant and he's so NOT MATURE, CHILDISH, AND DECEITFUL- MOVE ON! He's obviously a loser. Do you really belive that he'd be a good parent? That's the question that you need to be asking yourself... Do you really appreciate the fact that he's into all of these other girls and porn? Do you enjoy being controlled? You may need help, but not the kind that he's supplying... Good Luck!!! Do the right thing for yourself and your newborn... Those are the important things... Maybe you deserve better...
2006-09-30 05:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys can watch porn together, and then he won't feel the need to watch porn behind your back. That way, you guys can enjoy sex (which is good for you in pregnancy) together. As far as the controlling part, I know exactly how that feels. It never changes! Trust me. My ex-husband was controlling, and then it got abusive when I was pregnant. You don't want to take that risk. I went into false premature labor at 6 months pregnant due to stress from a controlling relationship. You need to talk to him, and find out how the two of you are going to take care of this baby though. The baby should always come first. Good luck!
2006-09-30 07:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, think about if YOU still love him and if you can imagine being the rest of your life with him. If you answered those 2 questions then decide. But staying with him just because you are pregnant doesnt make your life any happier. If he really doesn't treat you how you deserve it, blow him away. you deserve someone better then!
2006-09-30 05:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by corinna_jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looking at porn is natural.What person wouldn't look at someone else naked.It's natural.Now if theres signs of him cheating even on the computer.I say to hell with him.If he treats you bad you dont need that either.Right now you need to worry about yourself and your baby.
2006-09-30 05:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by ang3lzfir3_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋