2006-09-30 05:44:07 · 12 answers · asked by Andrew S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to hear that. Divorce is tough on everyone.
Try to spend as much time with each one as you can and keep everything as normal as you can.
Most important... Don't let your parents talk to you (negatively)about the divorce or each other. If they try to talk bad about the other parent, say "I love you both. Please don't put me in the middle. I'm not going to take sides."
Unfortunately, adults/parents are people too and we do stupid things. Just know they love you and you will all get through it.
2006-09-30 05:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, it's only human to be upset over your parents divorce, unfortunatly, there's really nothing that you can do but be supportive of your parents. Try not to take sides with either parent. You see they aren't divorcing you. You will still have both your parents.And most importantly DON'T BLAME YOURSELF. You had nothing to do with it. Sometimes people grow apart from each other, and are unhappy and fighting all the time, well who wants to grow up in that kind of an invironment. Who knows, later on in life you may have a new stepmom or stepdad. that can always be fun too because they will try to outdo each other and you could end up with some pretty nice gifts at Christmas or you birthday. Actually, I'm sure you want your parents to be happy, so just go with the flow and try to be happy yourself.
Good Luck
2006-09-30 06:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you will not be able to change the fact that they are getting a divorce but just remember that they love you. would it be better if they stayed together and be miserable? or would it be better if they separated and be happy? remember if they are happy it will be better for you. they will at least be civil to each other. if they are miserable then they will argue all the time and they will not be happy. as long as you remain the most important person in their life them don't be too down. people grow apart sometimes it has nothing to do with you. maybe one day when you get older you will experience some of the things your parents went through and you will be better equipped to handle it. hang in there and make sure you visit the parent that's leaving as often as you can and don't take it out on them. if you can't support them then Love them a little More. they will need it. It probably took a Long time for them to make this decision because they love you and didn't want to hurt you. maybe they can't hang on any longer. you continue to be a kid but try to be understanding and not be too upset at them. good luck for real
2006-09-30 06:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can tell you is its going to be tough for a while but it will get better. I wish that people would think about what this does to there kids....anyways try to keep yourself busy. Do you play any sports? Have some really good friends that you could hang with? What ever you do don't start getting yourself in trouble because of them. What I mean is don't start working out your anger in a negative way. If you feel like hitting something go get a punching bag and kill it!
Try to stay positive and REMEMBER this has NOTHING to do with you! Its NOT your fault!
Best of luck and hang in there....it does get better really
2006-09-30 05:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry for you. Just remember that your parents divorce has nothing to do with you. Your not to blame yourself. People grow apart, they stop trying and divorce happens. Too much in this day and age. Just try to stay busy, get some counceling if need be, but ALWAYS remember it's not your fault. Do not take blame for anything to do with the divorce. Hang in there kid, it will get easier. Talk to your parents and let them know how their divorce is affecting you. Don't keep your feelings inside. They need to know.
2006-09-30 06:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they are getting divorced,doesntmean they love you any less. They cant stay together if they are not happy together for whatever reason it is. But you need to know that has got NOTHING to do with you. You are thier son and they will always love you no matter what. Just stay strong and love both of them equally. Dont chaange the way you are. Do good in school,do the things that you are suposse to. They love you and will always be there for you no matter what happenss between them.
2006-09-30 05:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I know the feeling bro. Remember that divorce happens to half the people who get married. You're not alone. Just try to forget your parents and spend more time with your friends laughing. Everyone makes it through!
2006-09-30 05:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be supportive of your parents, this decision could not of been an easy one, don't act out for attention and try to help them out ... it's a lot to put on a kid but they are going to need some help. i'm sorry your going through this but in the long run it's probably for the best.
2006-09-30 06:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 01:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its not yr fault that they are divorcing. It's their own problem but that doesn't mean they don't love you. Meanwhile, spend more time with your good friends and let the adults sort out their own problem coz I believe they also don't feel good about this whole thing either. Believe me, they will feel guilty towards you also. Be strong and think positively. Always believe that we are not the worst.........................
2006-10-01 04:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by Illusion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋