the love chemistry?

Question

can somebody explain (scientifically) what it is that makes us attracted to someone. also, there is this boy i feel super attracted to & it goes both ways but we didn't click immediately. when we had our first conversation we didn't feel anything. however, when i met him the second time i could just tell we were drawn to each other. the attraction was very strong. so my question is why didn't i feel that the first time i talked to him. and what's it all about.

thanks.

Answer 1

I can't believe I'm answering this question!! And how did it get placed under Books and Authors anyway?

How can we explain the unexplainable?

"There's a divinity that shapes our ends / Rough hew them how we will."

Bells ring. Hallelujah!

How to explain it? That's the wrong question. The right question is, Are they cathedral bells, or simply fire alarms?

Within thirty minutes after meeting her, the bells were ringing loud and clear. We have now been married forty-four years, and the bells are still ringing.

Within two months we were already thinking of ourselves as one. But circumstances kept us hundreds of miles apart for almost a year. As hard as that was, it was probably for the best. Lovers need to be friends, and friendship takes longer than pheronomes.

Chemicals start the fire. But is it a brush fire or a forest fire? a flash fire or the burning bush? It takes reason, common sense, another part of the brain to determine that--and a little more time.

Why didn't you hear the bells, feel the blaze, "the first time you talked to him"? Why, chemicals are subject to other chemicals: what you ate or drank and when, what you're worried about or distracted by or immersed in, how tired you are and whether you've had enough sleep recently, whether you just made an A on a test or have a big one scheduled tomorrow, how the job interview went or why the contract didn't go through . . . the list goes on and on.

It's not when the bells start ringing; it's whether they keep ringing (even with the distractions). But if your ears are open and you listen carefully, your mind will tell you (sometimes over your pheronomes' protest) whether they are a fire alarm for a brush fire, or bells ringing in the chapel--the wedding chapel, that is.

Oh, I had heard the fire alarms several times before, once loud and clear and insistent. But, believe me, sometimes "it's better to have love and lost . . . . "

Old Poe had it right: Listen to "the bells, bells, bells, bells, bells , bells . . . ."

How it swells!
How it dwells
On the Future! - how it tells
Of the rapture that impels
To the swinging and the ringing
Of the bells, bells, bells -
Of the bells, bells, bells, bells,
Bells, bells, bells -
To the rhyming and the chiming of the bells!

Do they swell, dwell on the future, tell of a rapture that impels you? That sounds like wedding bells to me. Not just a tinkling cymbal. Nor a loud fire engine in the night. Give 'em time.

Blessings!

Answer 2

the considerable awareness in bonding relationships is "electrostatic allure". The extra effective the allure, the extra effective the bond. This then determines many actual residences, including boiling ingredient, melting ingredient, hardness, and so on.

Answer 3

the chemical pheronomes come into play,,men and women both emit them and they play a role in immediate physical attraction but probably have nothing to do with lasting relationships

Answer 4

I believe in Love Chemistry but I don't think anyone can explain that