2006-09-30 05:31:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I treat her like a woman.I show her love through touch.I help with house work.I take her to dinner,rub her when she is sore.I think I do what every man would do when he is in love.I feel like I am giving all that I can.
2006-09-30 05:56:10 · update #1
Ask for a divorce,even if that isn't what you want .If she says yes ,then I'd say get one ,If she says no maybe this will make her open up & tell you why she dosen't want anything to do with you. Don't be to harsh maybe she's going through something .Did she recently have a baby or gain weight all of thease can lead to depression and make her uncomfortable with intamacy or even avoid you all together.Let her know you care about her .Good Luck!!
2006-09-30 05:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all you are doing is true to your word, then there is something going on with her. You two really need to have a heart to heart conversation. But all cards on the table to find out what the "deep" feelings are. No one can continue to give and give and give and not receive anything in return. It makes you bitter and then you stop giving. Divorce then happens. Open, complete communication is needed here. This is the biggest problem in SO many marriages today. Couples don't talk, the don't express themselves, they hold everything inside, then BAM, explosion happens and it's over. Just like that. I say talk, talk and talk and if that doesn't help, go into marriage counseling.
2006-09-30 06:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want anything to do with her? Think about why your wife doesn't want anything to do with you. If it's something you can fix, try to fix it. If it's not something you can fix, let her know that. If she wants a divorce, ask her nicely to come to marriage counseling first. A divorce is a BIG DEAL and a heck of a lot more work than counseling.
If you have kids and want to be really coniving, start taking them out to neat places all the time. To see them, she'll have to join you and if she says you should stop she looks like the bad guy
2006-09-30 05:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Eri T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I am just replying from a woman's perspective, but first talk to her, ask if there are things bothering her either in the marriage or external.....worry often times changes your mental state in a negative way if you let it consume you. Possibly she thinks keeping it to her self will spare you, when in all reality, it bleeds over to your relationship. Ask if there are things you could do to help, or maybe just talking about it will help. Sometimes it can be as simple (or as complex if you will ) as hormonal issues, is she pregnant, post-natal, pre-menopausal or menopausal...? the hormone changes can really affect her moods and feelings, urges for sex or companionship....Could she possibly have Hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) does she eat all carbohydrates...cereal, bread, pasta, candy, cookies....with very little protein....? she could very well be hypoglycemic. it could be as simple as diet....if she is not feeding her body right, she will have many mood swings.
I can tell you, if you check into all of the above and she still can't stand you with all you say you are doing.....save yourself....make a clean break....and find someone to love you as well as you loving them...life is short, I tried to save my marriage for way too long.
2006-09-30 06:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by mistyeyes710 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife first of all, have plenty of reasons why they don't want to be bothered. Negligence. Lack of appreciation on what she do. Or she might have found somebody else who can stimulate her mind and body appropriately. Accepting to say" I'm sorry on whatever I did or do" will make a difference and telling her how much she really mean to you. Do you take her out to dinner , watch movies , walk in a park? Do chores together?
2006-09-30 05:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is going to have to "awaken" and move on down/up the line and GRAB a new one... "break down , grab a new one".
There are so many dating networks out there where one may find dating options, there is that popular one E-harmony and others etc... You can put in your compatibilites and find a nice match. I just really wish it would be known world wide about veganism and then all dates would be better.
2006-09-30 05:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her, calmly, gently and without becoming defensive. Tell her that you are uncomfortable with how she is ignoring you and ask her if she still wants to be married.
Just talk to her... you married her, there had to have been some time you both were crazy about each other.
Good luck because divorce sucks.... especially if theres kids involved.
2006-09-30 05:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling, would be my first suggestion. A open line of communication is very important. With the divorce rate as high as it is, one can only wounder why so many make the commitment to begin with.
2006-09-30 05:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by Work In Progress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well .. one can try from time to time.. try and fix it. And even though you try. it still may or indeed may not be fixable. Try as you might, she will do what she will do.
While that is happening one can ingore it, ignore it and "cheat" .. which may or may not really be "cheating" if one feels one must stay in the marrage.. or split.
Each has its ups and downs. I don't have better news.
2006-09-30 05:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first try to find a way that may intice her to do so. If this fails, tell her you need to talk and CALMLY discuss what you need/ want out of the relationship, and how you are willing to help her achieve what she wants as well!
2006-09-30 05:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by cheer8ko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋