If I get a new job, should I tell my boss the real reason I'm leaving (in as nice a way as I can)? Or should

Question

I just say "I want more room for growth?" or something non-inflammatory (and true)?

The reasons are that the VP makes me crazy! BUT she's friends with the owner! The vP has crazy, irrational fears and paranoias, which makes us worry too. Then she pushes work onto other people because, on top of all else, she can't handle things like the rest of us. Work overwhelms her and she gets stressed VERY easily. No matter how many times we say we're busy too, she'll make us do her work. If something happens she can't force us to do, she runs into the boss' office and tattles to get her way.

Plus, her relationship with the owner is unprofessional, immature and unfair to everyone else. They actually go into each other's offices and whisper about other. We're a small office! We can hear the whispers.

And when someone (like me) gives an idea during a staff mtg, the VP will look at the boss as if to say, "Is that idea even worth wasting the ink to write down?" It's rude!

Answer 1

Do not burn your bridges. Who knows what the future might hold?

Answer 2

Resign in such a way that if you want to come back to that company in the future, you can. You never, ever burn your bridges.

If you can be honest about why you are leaving, tell them as it may help them as a company.

I was at my last company for less than a year. It was not a very good place to work, due to office politics. I found another job (which I now love) and told the old company that I was leaving because of some BS I made up. I didn't burn any bridges and I still keep in touch with the people there.

Answer 3

as veraperez said, and others the best bet is never brn the bridges...I agree Also another thought the boss knows this is going on and you should generally never say something that they already KNOW is going on, they themselves have conflicted thought s about t, and each time a good employeeleaves, it gives them another "nudge" to relaize thischildishbetween the boss and the VP(is that it? can't remember ) behaviour is not helping the company. You dont have to say it. You always want to leave on good or as neutral as possible terms. Later as one answerer says one of those could quit and the other one be asking you to take a better position or one may switch jobs to become your supervisor later on. The possibilities are endless. Just try to leave a good impression everywhere you go is a good philosophy to live by.

Answer 4

It depends on how your boss will react to it. The ultimate objective is to leave the current job for the one you are taking without setting up a situation where you can never return.
If the boss is open to suggestions and you have a good relationship, tell him kindly the reasons you are leaving. If this company is notorious for marking anyone that has left ineligible for rehire, tell the truth and do it nicely.
There is no reason to lie as your reasons for leaving are valid to you, unless it would result in hard feelings with this employer....The way I usually do it is I picture what would happen if I ran into this person in another job and I had burned that bridge.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Be truthful and honest .

When i left my job , i cited the real reasons of leaving of pursuing higher studies. The boss acknowledged it and made it a good note for me.

Today almost after 3 years of finishing my MBA , i received a letter from the President of HR resources stating that they would love to have me back and knew my period of study . I'm reconsidering of joining them today.It such a pleasant feeling when you know you have parted on good truthful notes rather than lying .

Be diplomatic if you need to so that it does not hurt your conscience later on. But be truthful in case of genuine reasons. He will appreciate your honesty no matter how crude it might be for it. Everyone looks for constructive criticism and honest feedback which is RARE. It will be highly appreciated though they might not like losing such a wonderful employee like.

I make this out bcoz of ur concern of asking such a question itself shows how genuine of a person you are. So don't worry and say the truth.

Wish you luck for your future endeavors and do write me an e-mail on how it went off with your boss. would eager to hear ur real life response.

Take Care.

Regards

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Answer 6

I would suggest being honest with your current employer. It is important to keep the line of communication open with former employees, and not to burn your bridges. If the new job does not work out as you hope, you may need to use the former employer as a reference, or at the very least a prior employer.

If your honest they may also offer you more money, more opportunity for growth, or whatever you may need to furtehr your career. Most employers do not like to lose good people.

Hope this helps you a little.

Answer 7

Never.

The smart way out is the clean way: submit a letter of notice that thanks the company for the opportunity of being part of their team. Then explain that you have decided to take a job elsewhere.

Do this and walk away with a clean slate. The letter keeps you from turning around and suing them. When somebody calls HR to check on your employment history, they will pull your resignation letter out of your personnel jacket and assume that you are a nice and polite guy that just wanted to get a job elsewhere.

If instead you give them a letter that says take this job, shove it and I hope you choke on something and die, what do you think it is going to happen the next time somebody calls HR to check your employment history? They'll assume you had issues and were invited to leave.

Answer 8

Make sure you give him a 2 week notice and thank him for the opportunity of working for him . One thing you DON"T want to do anywhere you work is leave with an attitude . You never burn your bridges behind you because , you may need them down the line ... Good luck !

Answer 9

Don't lie, but he doesn't really need much of a reason if you are really determined to go. If money really is the only issue, it's probably fair to say something semi-blunt about that, so in case he can afford to out-bid the new boss, he has a chance to try.

Something like, "Well, I'm sorry, but I know you don't want to stand in my way when this really is a better opportunity for me." Something really open-ended is best, unless, as I say, you really do want to get him to out-bid the new employer.

Answer 10

I think you should give the real reason, because the company deserves to know what it can be doing better. Of course if the reason is that your boss is an ***, you'll be hard-pressed to find a nice way to put it to him. But I don't think you should wait until you have a new job to express your dissatisfaction--try to change things now.

Answer 11

You don't have to give a reason at all, though you should leave on a good note, saying something like, "I've had a wonderful experience here at Acme, and I've really appreciated the opportunity to participate in the success of the company. I've accepted a position at Big Corp (or Li'l Start-Up) that I'm very excited about. I hope we have a chance to work together in the future on business opportunities."

Good luck!