I want to but its hard. has anyone else done this and succeeded, i have only heard about the negative side of it
2006-09-30 03:40:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am male and my friend is female
2006-09-30 03:45:30 · update #1
should not be
2006-09-30 03:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's difficult to ask a friend out why? because you may afraid of being shot down. There are good chance that it may workout. She might feel the same way. On the other hand it might be bad because if you guys break up then you may not even be friends anymore. I did the same thing a couple of years ago. Except I thought It would be okay to sleep with him and just be friends. Now with that he started feeling for me and he wanted more then just sex. So were not close anymore but we do speak when ever we see each other. I dont know if this helped any but I do wish you luck and love!
2006-09-30 10:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by prettybrightbutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be difficult asking a friend out because you are afraid That your friendship might end up destroyed If you brake up with her or she brakes up with you.But I know a lot of people friendships that are still really strong ,it depends how your friendship is, I think you shold ask this person out becauseyou have To be friends b4 you can be lovers.Don't miss out because you are scared because you could miss out on something really good maybe even great,ask her Out where yall first met or some place nice dont make Your friend ask her out ask her out yourself and make sure u flir with her a little Bit b4 so you can see if she is interested in you like if she flirts back.
2006-09-30 10:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard thing to do because you risk damaging the frienship if anything were to go wrong, also there is no guarentee that the friend will have the same feelings as you and that could make things very difficault
2006-09-30 10:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it the old fashioned way-Wait till your both slightly drunk and try and get a bit physical like a small kiss. If she fancys you she'll respond in kind or if she wants to *ahem* remain friends she'll push you away.
The beauty of this is if goes wrong you can always come out with that the drink went to your head.
2006-09-30 10:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I were friends first, but it all started off as a joke, he had a stupid girlfriend so I was just like "If she don't have you I will" or if he looked particularly good one day I'll say "My god I fancy the pants off you" and it'll just be little jokey comments, eventually he got the hint and we all lived happily ever after! Well, it's only been a year and a half, but why don't you try it?
2006-09-30 11:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by floppity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I asked a friend out, she said yes, so that was cool, maybe it's difficult because you like her more than that and are afraid she'll say no and the usual we're just friends, but friends go out aswel, I'd go for it if I were you, you never know...
2006-09-30 10:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Fu Manchu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is difficult because there is the risk of losing a friend.
I've tried it just recently, and i was surprised with his reaction. apparently he has had feelings for me for ages, but i was just so absorbed in the fear, that i never recognised the signals he was sending.
i am not saying that it would be the same for you, but would you want to live the rest of your life not knowing if you should have?
2006-09-30 10:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult due to the fear of being rejected and alienated by the friend especially if they dont know you had feeling for them. I've done it and it didn't work out for us, one of my mates has also done it and they are happily living together
2006-09-30 12:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by kward1979uk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her out. I asked my female friend out and she said yes. we dating and things were fine. We are not togther anymore. We broke up because I moved out of state and we thought it would not work. We are still best friends even though we broke up. she has moved to were I moved and we are dating again. I also think it is the best thing that has ever happend to me. I was glad that I asked her out.
Good Luck
2006-09-30 12:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by TOM 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to ask a friend out be people are afraid to lose them in the end.
u could just ask her if she wanted to hang out with you one day
dont make it look like date.
or u could ask if she wanted to go on a date with u,she mite feel the same way about you,you'll never know until u try
goodluck
2006-09-30 10:54:32 · answer #11 · answered by Kappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋