My terrible illness make me sicker and sicker. But because I'm considered under-age, doctor and my parents refuse to tell me what's going on. Until recently when I'm getting much sicker, they finally agree to explain me.
To be honest I have a really bad feeling about this. I really want to know about my health but I'm very affraid to hear a bad news. And I become unsure whether I really want to hear this not. Do you think should I hear the truth or not?
2006-09-30 03:27:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I`m so sorry to hear this...If it were me I would want to know what was going on....Your in my prayers..
2006-09-30 03:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. Some people don't handle bad news about health very well. It can psychologically damaging to a person's ability to recover from an illness. Some people do better when they don't hear how bad they are doing. Not to say that this is the case for everyone. I myself have never had to deal with a life threatening illness. But my attitude is that I will never get seriously sick from anything. A positive attitude can also have a tremendous affect on one's health. I haven't had the flu in 20 yrs. The last time I had the flu I was 15. If I get a cold, it only lasts a day and a half which is very rare when I do get one at all. I work in an environment where germs spread like wildfire. But I never seem to catch what everyone else has. Don't listen to negativity about your illness. Be as positive as possible about it. Even if you don't feel better. I think it is horrible when doctor's tell patients they have only a certain amount of time to live. My aunt was diagnosed with cancer last year. The doctor told her she only had a certain amount of time to live. She lived only 2 weeks longer than the amount of time she was given. I suspect she had the beginning stages of cancer when I was 19 ( I am almost 35 now). It amazes me how quickly she went downhill after a doctor gave her that information. On the other hand, a co-worker of mine's grandmother was diagnosed years ago that she had terminal cancer. The doctor gave her 6 months to live but didn't tell her, he only told her adult child who told the doctor not to tell her. It's been 7 years now and she is cancer free. Amazing isn't it?
2006-09-30 05:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It always depends on the person involved. If you prefer not to hear anything about your illness, you will never be able to reliably judge whether the procedures they are doing to you are what you want to take a chance on.
It is always best to stay informed. Even if it's the worst news possible, and your death may be imminent, you will at least have time to come to terms with this, and get your life straightened out before you go.
But death should never be considered scary. It is a natural process. And who says that this life isn't just one stop on a bigger experience, where our souls evolve to be much greater than what we are on this world.
I think you need to sit down and listen to your parents. Allow yourself a little time to grieve over your lost dreams. But then you need to accept your condition, and learn all you can about it. It is from the basis of knowledge that we make our best decisions.
2006-09-30 03:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody wants to hear bad news and we think if we don't actually hear the words, it will just go away. But, if you have the information, then you can make a plan. There actually is alot of relief in knowing because then you know what you are dealing with. The unknown causes stress and could be detrimental to you health. So, yes. I think you should be told what is happening with you. It is your life and you are the patient. Your parents need to respect your right to participate in decisions concerning your health care.
2006-09-30 03:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tina R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be strong for other people and
show them what a fighter you are.
Enjoy every minute you can.
Watch for other treatments with
natural subsances such as vitamins,
minerals, and amino acids, etc.
If you are old enough to use a
computer, you can look up
'natural cures.'
I believe there is another
dimension of life that comes
after what we call death.
It is more beautiful and
satisfying than anything
on this earth.
We can all look forward to it.
If you think an angel
looks pretty, picture
having them for
best friends! wow!
God Bless You.
2006-09-30 04:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...some people can be very rude! I think it is better for you to know what is going on. yes, it may be bad news and it'll get you down, but at elast you won't be wonderign about how bad it could be. If you don't know, you will always be imagining a worst case scenario. your outlook can help with healing or hurting. So, no matte rhow bad it gets, you should always stay in the know. If you know exactly what it is, you can go on the internet and research it. there may be groups of people who have been through or are going through a similar situation. doesn't hurt to look.
2006-09-30 03:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you are a minor, the decision, unfortunately, is out of your hands. You may pressure your parents and doctor into giving you the truth, but ultimately if your parents choose that you should remain oblivious then so you shall. Your doctor has to answer to them, not you.
If I were in your shoes, I would want to know. We fear the unknown most of all, and you cannot begin to grapple with your feelings and eventually face your own mortality unless you are possessed of all the facts. You are afraid because you do not know; if you know, then you can start to face your fears head on and also understand what is happening in your body.
I wish you peace.
2006-09-30 04:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For starters they should have told you from the very beginning about what is wrong with your health.
But even now you need to know the truth. I am sure it will help you learn about what you are going through and ways to help yourself treat your sickness or live with it.
Hope you get better soon!
2006-09-30 04:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's totally up to you. I think you should probably wait till your mentally secure enough to hear it. And you'll know when that is. If there's a tinge of uncertainty within you, you're not ready. But there may or may not be a time when you're ready for the truth. And you'll learn to accept the truth -- no matter how hard it may be.
<3 - Ed
Just remember someone loves you.
2006-09-30 03:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by elynch100 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I know i would want to hear the truth, especially if my health depended on it. Wouldn't you rather know whats going on than spend the rest of your underage life wondering?
2006-09-30 03:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Who, Me?? ...I'm Lost... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always better to know. The road to acceptance is painful, but I have always found it to be worth the struggles. It's ok to be scared, allow yourself to face your fears with the help and support and love of your family. Good luck to you!
2006-09-30 03:52:55 · answer #11 · answered by JJJJJJJJim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋