Why does my future husband want to rush the wedding date up just because i am preganant only three weeks ?Both off us are catholic but he is panicking about this like mad running around like a chicken with a broken neck!I worried he will plan the wedding without me?He seems to have it almost all planned out already!
2006-09-30 03:24:01 · 14 answers · asked by kelly v 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
legally we already married we just chose to tell everyone e were engaged so we would not have to explain we were drunk in Vegas and eloped by mistake!
2006-09-30 03:32:50 · update #1
If you do it fast enough, people won't necessarily assume you got married because you had to. However, if you wait, you will be wearing a cliche; the maternity wedding gown.
What might work, however, is to get married privately now, like this weekend, and then go ahead with the ritual, but send your announcements to say that this will be your reception, not your wedding. Being visibly pregnant at a reception some months after the actual marriage date is charming, and people will not really bother to remember the actual date on the marriage certificate.
But if he's determined to hurry with more elaborate plans, bless him! He's taking the whole idea seriously of being a responsible husband and father, and you can't ask better than that. Go the distance to cooperate with him in this, and you will have yourself a nice solid marriage. Because you will find out how much better it is when you marry a man you can trust, and then trust him. Let him be president to your vice-president, and you will find you are married to a man you can trust, a man you can respect.
That is, after all, what you want for your children as well as for yourself.
2006-09-30 03:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I mean absolutely no disrespect to your faith, but I think your situation is pretty common with Catholic families. The last Catholic wedding I went to was of a pregnant bride, 8 months along. People will do the math regardless of when your husband plans the wedding, so there's no sense in trying to play off your pregnancy. He's probably just wigged out.
2006-09-30 22:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally you are married.. so technically you won't be living in sin - because you're pregnant and 'unwed'... for the person "R" that replied and called you names - that's bull crap. First of all I know exactly where you're coming from. I was engaged only a few weeks before we found out that we're having a baby. That doesn't make me stupid, or unresponsible. We simply pushed our wedding up another year - from 07' to 08'. That may not be an option for you, but that is ok. Let him know how you feel, have him slow down a little. But I have heard that a church won't marry you if you are having a child out of wedlock... I could be wrong, we aren't the religious type and are getting married outside the church...
2006-09-30 11:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tabby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 6 months preg when we had our Catholic wedding in our Catholic church. We started trying for baby right smack in the middle of planning the wedding. My mom freaked out, but Father Ron said that every child is a blessing and was very happy for us. We had to have a "special" discussion with Father to be sure we weren't getting married just because of the baby...but since we were already done with our marriage prep courses and lead couple meetings and Father knew we were already going to be married before baby was made, it was like a 5 minute talk with him.
If your priest treats you badly, go to another congregation and explain the situation.
2006-09-30 17:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called "brain washing"!!!!!!!!!!!! I too am Catholic (well, we both are) and it's the constant badgering we got in Catholic school that makes us feel the "guilt"!!! You should know this as you say you too are Catholic. My husband and I choose to become PG before our wedding day (we are a somewhat older couple). I was 4 months (!!!!!) along on our wedding day and while we didn't keep it a secret that I "was", I surely didn't look any where close to being pregnant at all. Tell him to relax. Even if you are having a Catholic wedding, the priest isn't going to condemn you for your pregnancy. Believe it or not, you can STILL enjoy your wedding day............. baby and all!!
Happy Wedding Day :)~
mb
2006-09-30 10:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you have several problems. first, you need to tell everyone that you are already married. i would be pissed if i went to a wedding and found out that they were already married. it looks like you are just "fishing" for presents. there is no need to have a big huge wedding if you are already married. second, i'm assuming that he is freaking out because you are pregnant, but moving up the wedding isn't going to change the fact that you are. everyone will know in time that you were pregnant at the wedding and it will look even worse. i suggest telling everyone that you are already married and pregnant and just have a reception so all your friends and family can celebrate with you.
2006-09-30 14:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well being Catholic myself, I would imagine he is trying to protect the both of you from the disapproving older judging family members. If no one knows or can tell then there will be no whispering behind your back. Assuming you really want to be married and in a Catholic Church, I would get the ball rolling.
2006-09-30 15:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probobly feels people we look at u guys wrong or say u guys got married because u were pregnant. He shouldnt let people affect his wedding and its up to both of u if u uys want to change the date
2006-09-30 11:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by SHYBABIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Two things to celebrate - a wedding and a baby!
Both are happy events. Encourage your fiance to calm down, and enjoy! :-))
Yes, he probably wants the wedding before you start to show, but both the pregnancy and the wedding are facts! Just be happy, and love one another! :-))
2006-09-30 10:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by zen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its obviously more important to him than you. Maybe he thinks some of his friends/family will think less of you and him. Maybe he doesn't want your baby to think that you 2 got married just because you were pregnant. ASK HIM! And if you don't like what he's doing, let him know. Its your marriage, too. Its time to communicate--don't keep your feelings all bottled up. Good luck!
2006-09-30 10:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by preciselyright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋