my friend's birthday is coming up, and i want to give her a map similar to the one in Elizabeth Town where Kirsten Dunst gives Orlando Bloom a highly specific and personal roadtrip map. The map i plan to make is in accordance to the difficulties and lessons one learns in life in general. I want my friend to have this map since we're most likely we're not going to see each other the next year....i want her to have something to help her when she goes through the smooth and tough times that life offers.
so, in relation to the question, what are the lessons that you have learned in life? what difficulties have you encountered and how did you get through it? or you can tell me anything you like and enjoy about life. anything goes...just give me serious answers please.
thanks in advance.
2006-09-30 03:03:29 · 8 answers · asked by abstemious_entity 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm in my early 40's with 2 great kids.....I beleive everything happens for a reason.....
The most difficult would be in 2003 watching my 44yr. old husband die from lung cancer. I accepted losing my dad,father-in-law,and mother-in-law (though within 11months of each other).
My daughter was only 11,my son was 7 yrs old. One thing I have learned is that as a person I am stronger than I realized. I faced each day hoping and looking for a miracle that didn't happen. We fought his battle together,never losing hope. When he passed it was peacefully at home with me by his side. I looked at him and said "It's time to let go, the kids and I will be alright. We tried and its not meant to be.I will love you forever." We held on to each other then I placed my right hand over his heart. He looked at me and said "For always." That was it. A golden heart had stopped beating,he was at peace.
My children and I got through it all with the love and generosity of my church,family,friends,my employer,parents of my kids friends, their schools,co workers. My husband worked for a family business,to the owners it was like losing a son/brother.We were part of their family and still are. There were over 400 people at his viewing.
What I enjoy each day is watching my children grow into wonderful individuals. My daughter is 14,a freshman in high school.She's into gymnastics,dance,and on the cross country team. My son is in 4th grade and is an awesome soccer player!
My 28yr old niece has 2 little ones. They along with my 2 kids mean the world to me. I am thankful for each day. Seeing the world through the eyes of a child is such a blessing!
My husbands motto was "Don't sweat the small stuff".
2006-09-30 03:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by iamjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my life I have endured many hardships and sadness however, I feel that these come for a reason, to help me learn why I am here. We are on a journey and the ups and downs are part of that journey. I have also many happy times which evens life out I feel. Think of the journey of life, if you come off the road there will be a detour and you may take time to get back but you will, you just need to find the way. Only you can direct your life. I have learned to smile when Im down and to love those that hurt me.
2006-09-30 10:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a road full of potholes and detours - accidents and misadventures - life is not only what you put into it but what your expectations are from the life - sometimes a person spends their whole life trying to get ahead and the harder they try the harder they will not succeed - when life hands you a bunch of lemons - don't waste your time making lemonade - squish them in the face of adversity - look forward to each day - it MAYBE your LAST one - accidents/health problems/monies problems/family problems/relationship problems/etc problems are a way of life - keep a trucking - and you are a wonderful friend to think of something this wonderful for a birthday present for your friend - may she/he always treasure it!@
2006-09-30 10:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my middle 40's so you can see where I am in the time life.
Biggest lesson still learning "it is not about me"
Going through life I find that when I get hurt, discouraged, frustrated or angry it is usually because I am just thinking about myself and not what even one else is going through.
As I have gotten older I am more patient and I think through the frustrations of life and ask myself the question "If it is not about me, what is it about?"
I am then much better able to respond in love and kindness then in angry or frustration.
Things I like about my life - stopping and observing and truly appreciating the moment. My job has me traveling quite a bit and it is real easy to get jaded by flying, hotels, restaurants. I look around and see who through their service is making my life easier, I look around and enjoy the horizon of the sun setting. I still get delight of having room service put a flower on my tray.
What a great idea to do for your friend, best of luck
2006-09-30 10:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by freemansfox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
It takes a long time to become the person you want to be.
Either you control your attitude or it controls you.
It isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
Your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become.
Credentials on the wall do not make a decent human being.
2006-10-01 00:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with myself - There is only one person who can push me to my limits... and that's me. Allow myself ample time to breathe, to grieve, to cry and to try.
Friendships - Best friends are few and far in between. When you find a best friend in someone, make every effort to keep them close to you.
Happiness - When my smiles have been demoted and taken over by nasty feelings, memories and experiences that bring me down... I must refuse to fall. I can only be my absolute best if I put my best foot forward. There's no way to do that if I'm not happy and the only person that can make me happy... is me =)
2006-09-30 10:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by apinkfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in yourself
You can sit back and watch the action or be part of it
No one can control your life except you
Give yourself goals and achieve them
Be your true self, not what others want, you can not be happy that way.
2006-09-30 10:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by littlebit17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learn't that you can lose your everything overnight. And you can win it back the next day!
2006-09-30 10:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋