When you feel that you embarrassed yourself or felt like you said something stupid to someone, how do you get over it or try to forget it?
2006-09-30 01:45:57 · 19 answers · asked by childlikeempress 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I mean when you get home after it all hapenned ^_^
2006-09-30 01:52:18 · update #1
Have a stiff drink.
2006-09-30 01:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One thing I might try is to think about what I'd say to a friend if she told me she did or said the same "embarrassing" or "stupid" thing. Often we're *much* harder on ourselves than we are on our friends. Looking at it from this point of view can help us be more gentle and forgiving of ourselves.
Usually, what I'd say to a friend--and try to remember to say to myself--in such situations is, "Hey, welcome to the human race! So you did or said something you thought better of later. Who *hasn't* done that?"
I might also remind that friend that I personally don't *want* to hang around with "perfect" people. Give me a flawed human being--especially one who can laugh at his or her foibles and failings--any old day.
Partly, what I'd do might depend on the type of remark I'm feeling bad about. In other words, "stupid" can cover a lot of territory. Was it stupid as in ignorant (not knowing the facts)? Was it hurtful? If I said something *hurtful* (or even potentially hurtful) to someone else, or if I said something that I later realized was wrong, I'd probably look for a way to apologize. If for some reason that wasn't possible (e.g., if the person I was speaking to was a stranger I can't contact again), I might write a journal entry in which I apologize to the person. And then I'd immediately look for an opportunity to be kind to someone else.
One important thing to remember is not to label *yourself* as "stupid" (or whatever) just because you *said* something that you judge to have been stupid. At worst, it was stupid *behaviour*--or, to use a much less judgmental phrase, "ill-advised behaviour." Too often, I think we make the mistake of thinking that our behaviour is who we *are*. Fortunately, you can almost always change how you behave (although sometimes it takes a while to do so, since you may have to unlearn some other behaviour). Since we can't change the past, I try to concentrate on changing what I do *next* time.
2006-09-30 06:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by tink_mcd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rather than dwelling on failure realise that you've grown as a person. We all learn from our environment and the best lessons are often the result of poor choices or simple mistakes. Just in saying aloud, "well I guess I won't be doing that again any time soon" you've admitted to your fault and vowed to improve. As an employer I am far more receptive to "I screwed up and it won't happen again" to an excuse for failure no matter how viable the excuse. Accepting responsibility for one's actions is the key to gaining trust and achieving personal growth. It does not matter whether you are admitting to yourself or to another the impact is the same. You are trusting yourself more or developing confidence or gaining the trust of another just from being honest and accepting criticism as readily as praise. Confidence when earned and not imagined is of the greatest importance in personal development.
2006-09-30 02:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if all of your acquaintances have one and also you do not? Are you a teen? nicely, a minimum of you're not to any extent further tied down like them. in case you want to end being awkward, at the initiating, you should sense positive in your self. make certain you look sturdy, and also you've something exciting to talk about. only you need to be organic. also, imagine of them as human beings. do not placed them on a pedestal. possibly you're awkward round some adult adult males, yet others would make you extra gentle.
2016-11-25 03:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is experience. Good or bad. You are part a product of your genes, and the rest of your environment.
Made a mistake? Dwell on it for a moment, understand how it happened (spoke before you thought about it), and then commit to learning from it by not repeating it.
Then, ... laugh. It was probably funny. If anyone brings it up later, bring out that same laugh and have a good time with it. Life is funny, and so are we.
2006-09-30 06:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by jumping_in_101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a big cluts, I Trip on cracks in the sidewalks. You do get use to it after a while. usualy I'll just go home and read a book or pop in a movie, to forget of all the stupid things I did today.
2006-09-30 01:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by shoot.bang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tend to laugh it off at my own expense. That lessens the embarrassment factor with everyone involved. Discovered early in life that being able to laugh at myself before anything else puts everyone at ease and can make a bad situation turn around.
2006-09-30 01:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just laugh it off and forget about it. Don't go home thinking 'ohmy god I made such a fool out of myself' cos it's more than likely who ever you were embarrassed infront of has forgotten all about it.
2006-09-30 08:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by Vickyandbump 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To keep my lips sealed if I'm still in their company.
After it happens though, I probably just go over the situation like over & over again having a laugh about it.
Basically, just get over it & be mindful the next time, lol=)
2006-09-30 07:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope that when i embarrass myself that I'm with friends who will laugh about it in a kind way, laugh about it myself, and change the subject as quickly as possible.
2006-10-01 05:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in making mistakes will make you a far better person; others warm to your own humility and then you will see that not being perfect is just that.
2006-09-30 01:54:57 · answer #11 · answered by Doh! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋