At what point is it ok to have an affair. I have had no sex with my wife in 6 years. Does that mean al bets are off?
2006-09-30 01:34:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you get a life. You just asked another question saying that your wife told you that her ex was a better lover. Now you are saying that she isn't having sex with you. If you are going to make up stories at least make sure that they coincide with one an other.
2006-09-30 02:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't believe you are being honest. I don't think you would stay with a wife with no sex for 6 years. Therefore, if you are still with the wife with no sex, you have been getting it elsewhere. Your just looking for approval for what you are already doing.
Now to answer your question, if it is legit. There is never a point where it is okay to have an affair--married or not married. An affair never involves real love; it's always just lust, pure and simple. An affair is simply USING another person to try to fulfill our needs in a quick, easy way. However, the lasting results always hurts many people. Because it hurts to be used. We were meant to use things and love people. That means caring for them above what we can get out of them. That means wanting what is best for them. Love never fails. Affairs are doomed to fail from the beginning. Just as it is impossible to plant a turnip seed and get a bean plant, just so it is impossible to engage in an affair and get anything wholesome and good out of it.
2006-09-30 07:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At no point is it ever ok to have an affair. 6 years of marriage constitutes a divorce. You are great for having stayed by her side this long, but things are not likely to change after this amount of time. If you have exhausted all options, and she hasnt come around, then the best thing to do is wipe it all away, and start a clean slate with someone new, the right way.
2006-09-30 02:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple and the answer is plain. The problem comes when you try to fight it. Here's what I see. Your sexual drive is raging or missing the old days and your wife isn't reciprocating. For six years man? Listen, your not giving enough information about your wife to understand why maybe she is holding back. It seems to me that your not talking to her. I'm sorry but 6 years??? You need to sit her down for real and ask her whats going on. Who in this world wants a perfect relationship??? Who in this world really wants to live in a dream were you pretend that everything is ok?? It doesnt work huh look what your saying. Your basically asking people is it ok. No, you have many more options to exhaust. Talk to her, try spicing things up, take her out, do whatever it took to fall in love in the first place. Why cheat on her? We really don't know whats going on with her.
2006-09-30 02:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by a1b2c3d4bj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alienation of affection is grounds for divorce. Why don't you do so and move on with your life freely? If she has no love left for you, there's no point in continuing the marriage. If she does still love you, then there's obviously something wrong and I would recommend counseling. But something's gotta give here...6 years is waaaaaaaaaay too long to go without!! (look who I'm telling! LOL! I think you already know that!). However, if you do decided to have an affair, it may be justified and she only has herself to blame.
2006-09-30 01:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never OK to have an affair. If your relationship isn't salvageable. Get a divorce first, then you are free to do whatever you want.
After reading your other questions, I have the impression, that your wife isn't satisfied in bed and you think it has to do with you not being circumcised. I think that's the least of your problems.
No sex for 6 years goes well beyond that issue.
2006-09-30 02:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NEVER RIGHT TO HAVE AN AFFAIR...You should just get a divorce. 6 years without sex with your spouse is rediculous unless she has a medical problem. If that is the case you should be faithful to her and stay by her side. What ever you do though, don't have an affair.....that isn't "fair"!
2006-09-30 01:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, are you really that stupid? It is never ok to have an affair. I don't care if you have not had sex with her in over 80 years. She is your wife, if you don't want to be with her then be a man and tell her. Do it right, but don't chat on her that will only make you the loser!
2006-09-30 02:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by dohm84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a older male, married 21 yrs. After 18 yrs of marriage I became sexually inactive- and yes i did everything that I could to reverse this medically, as well as psychologically to no avail. I encouraged her to do what she needed to do because of the love I had and still have for her. She did and it led to a divorce--I am miserable but the only one I care about is happy, which gives me some relief. So I say yes go for it-You only live once!
2006-09-30 02:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. how can you tell your wife can't stand you?
2. an affair is no solution for your problem, you should talk to your wife and ask her what is wrong with her.
3. if you can't be faithful to your wife, you two should get devorced.
2006-09-30 01:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Katja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋