i decided to have lunch with my hubby n we did so .he just had recieved his payment n did not want to tell his parents . but the next morning he himself told me to give his payment to his mother . i too handle it her . but she thinks that im teaching him to go away from her .and today she indirectly tonted me for the same but when i clarified with him he did not want to listern to me
2006-09-30 01:32:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear sorry to say You are very wrong. Your hubby is not at all avoiding you in-fact if you think properly he is very sensible. You are going through which 99 % of married women go through Mother-In-Law & Daughter-In-Law conflict....It happens in all cultures. There was a reason in his mind of giving you the money to hand it over to his mother otherwise dont u think he could have done it himself? At first i think he came in ur talk about keeping the money for urself but later at night his real conscious woke up and he realized his mother needed the money more than u or him....He is a very loving man and a sensible one too. He knows his paradise lies under the feet of his mother. The more he and you keep his mother happy the more God will look after you both and this is a fact. On the other hand I feel u r trying to bring conflict and un-happiness in ur home. that is why he didn’t listen to u / ignored you ..he could also have got very angry on you but he didn’t.
your mother-in-law is very right in thinking that you are trying to teach him ....infact you are giving him wrong ideas...if you want a peaceful home for urself and ur family and hubby start looking after ur mother-in-law...I dont know if your own mother is alive or not..whatever..she is just like your mother too...help her to be happy in her old age..she wont be around for ever...
look if you want urself to be properly looked after in ur old age start looking after old pll now.. Remember history repeats itself..And you reap what you grow....
2006-09-30 02:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by mature_male_online 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some mothers don't know how to let their sons go especially ones who are married and got their own lives. Some moms feel that the wife her son married won't take care of him as well as she does. This can be a strain on a marriage because the man is fighting between his mother and his wife. The problem is some mothers refuse to accept the fact that if their son is married he's got his own life and his wife and children come before her. Your husband should be standing up to his mother and letting her know that she's not to disrespect her in any way and if she doesnt like her for whatever reason that's not yours or your husband's problem. This can be a sign that mom's lonely and needy and thinks having her son by her side is a security blanket when in fact it's damaging him because she's using manipulation to draw him away from his family and his marriage. If your mother in law is single that's a clue she needs to be around people instead of latching on to her son and making him believe that you're taking her son from her when her son is a grown a** man who's married and has a family of his own.
2006-09-30 02:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like there must be more to the story, marriage is tough but you should talk to your husband, maybe there's a reason. My mom pushes my dads family away but will not admit it to us or herself! It's frustrating! You might be treated unfair by your husband if so, talk to him & his mother together in the same room. Calmly tell them both how you feel, clear the air, let them help you work it out, you should always try to work it out.
2006-09-30 01:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That`s not fair,he married you,not his mother,if he wants to live with her,then he should do that...I think he didn`t really grow up,and that his life is controlled by his mother,if you don`t solve this quick,it will be worse,later...you must talk with him about it,if he wants to listen or not,but do it on a calm tone,don`t get angry cause,this will freek him out.try to show love,treat him like his mother does,after some time he will forget about her,anhd do as you say...
good luck.
2006-09-30 01:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are telling him to stop being a baby and go and give his mom the payment himself.
And for him ignoring you, your obviously not giving him enough ___.
Guys want that, and remember its healthy for you...
Tell him and do stuff together and try new stuff more often than you do. If he is gonna give mom his payment, tell him to do it himself, not you, its not your payment giving to his mom, and not your money, its your husbands money and that is his mom he has to pay.
Good Luck!
2006-09-30 01:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you married a wrong man,what your husband want is a mommy and not a wife, you should change your wife tittle into a secretary just to give justice to your role in his life.
2006-09-30 01:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your question is to confusing to understand wow
2006-09-30 02:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋