when your in love and dont feel like the other person is as much as you, even when they think im crazy for thinking they arent? but they wont say it and do things that would show it...... if i feel like this is there something missing? isnt it better to get out now or should i keep sticking it out and hope he comes around? thats what i been doin but his lack of emotion keeps starting arguements.if i love him completely and we love being together you think i should take a step back and see if he comes around or keep taking the emotional void i feel from him? this is difficult
2006-09-30 01:12:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it was me, having been through it before and having learned my own lessons, I'd take a step back, meaning I'd have to take some time away from him, I mean like a week or two, and think about what I feel is necessary in a relationship and what I absolutely wont have in it, then I would figure out where the guy and I stand on those terms. Mutual contentment is necessary. You can argue about what's missing forever, but that probably wont make it appear. If it's missing, it's missing. He doesn't have it inside to offer to you, for whatever reason. He may be a great guy, but that doesn't mean you are compatible as lovers. Take some time to think things through, for yourself.
2006-09-30 01:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is difficult to detect what our partner is thinking and feeling. Perhaps he is afraid of letting his emotions show. If his lack of emotion is starting arguments though, that is a red flag. And, in no way, shape or form should you keep taking the "emotional void" from him. Let him know how you feel. If he continues, take your step back. Sometimes what we think is love, isn't. Sometimes we pull the wool over our own eyes in order to fulfill our own needs. I know that that sounds incredibly harsh, but it is only the truth. Maybe you should take a minute and decide why it is you really love this guy. It obviously isn't from affection, so what is it? Good Luck.
2006-09-30 08:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you mean, the truth of the matter is that you just love him more than he loves you. And you can think of better ways to show your love verses he probly thinks as long as he tells you once a year and your still together that, that is all you need. I'm in the same relationship and have been for 9 years. It's hard but if you love him enough you will hang in there.
2006-09-30 08:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Reckless 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was kind of in a relationship like that where my boyfriend would tell me he loves me and i would try to ignore it, but seeing that i'm not ready to say it, he tries to step back alittle until and give me time until i'm ready and you should do the same thing, he'll come around, like I did and the love will grow more and more. Now I'm in a 2 year relationship, so you should just wait for him until than stick with him.
2006-09-30 08:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by ladi_c224 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is supposed to meet both people's needs. If your emotional needs arent being met, and he doesnt know how to meet them, you either want too much too often or he's not the guy for you. If you dont feel you are asking a lot, dont let him make you feel guilty for wanting a satisfying relationship. Everyone needs to be loved. get it girl...
2006-09-30 08:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, honey, I know it's difficult. I married one like that. Been married to him for 16 years now. Some guys just have a hard time with emotions. Don't expect it to change. It won't. I guess I can't really say that, since I don't know your guy, but it hasn't changed for my husband. You just have to learn how to accept it. Not an easy thing to do. Still not easy for me after all these years.
2006-09-30 08:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you with? It sounds like my ex but I won't go there. I miss him sometimes he was fun but I couldn't stand to be in a relationship with a guy I felt didn't love me as much as I loved him. I am now married to a great guy who shows me he loves me every Day.
2006-09-30 08:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by L S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find the right one
2006-09-30 08:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_32m2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋