2006-09-30 00:49:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Age is not normally the issue of having babies.
Are you prepared to give up much of your freedom?
2006-09-30 02:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi 21 isnt a young age to have a baby. You have a baby when you are ready so if you want one then have one. I believe that having a child before you are in your late 20s or in your 30s is a brilliant idea at least you have loads of time to spend with you children and watch them grow, As life is too short. I know people say dont have children till your in your 30s as they tie you down.I dont believe in this and i believe a family should start young and grow together rather than later. I know a women who has had a baby and she is 37 she already had a girl and a boy but come to think of it when the child is 20 they both will nearly be in there 60s. Who know what will happen in the future. But i say if you are ready now go ahead and do it. Yes i suppose having a job etc and home would be ideal, but there are other ways of managing,look at these teenage girls who have nothing and get pregnant, they manage im sure you will be fine. and good luck.
2006-09-30 09:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex and I had children young and we werent really ready now that I look back on it.She's a good mother and I believe I'm a good father,but I wish we would have been more financially stable and ready in our relationship.I spent a few years trying to climb ladders to find out they didnt go anywhere in the job market,she spent a couple years depressed that she had children at a young age(20).We didnt work out obviously,since she is my ex,but we struggled to make everything good for the babies.I finally got a nice job about 3 years ago where I make enough money to support my family but i wish i had that in the beginning.It would have been so much easier.The only trouble I have now is split custody and that sucks because I only see my monkeys half the time.Just thought I would give you a little of my experience.Really really think it through before you just have a baby.The little ones are brought into this world by us,and need us to look out for them and help them through.Make sure you are 110% ready to take care of them.If you are at the right place in your life and ready to care for,love,and teach your child,then I dont think you'd be mad for having a baby.
2006-09-30 08:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. I'm 23 and I can't imagine having kids at my age, but plenty of people do and are happy. You have to make sure that you want a baby now, and that you don't just want a baby in general. Do you have a stable relationship? are you finacially secure enough to bring up a child? Do you really feel you're ready to settle down and have no social life anymore? Tjose are the questions you need to ask yourself. If the answers are yes, then go aheah, if not, maybe wait a few years.
2006-09-30 07:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
in a word yes.... I had my son at 35 and I'm glad I had a life before I travelled and did what I wanted first ,also being a slightly older mother i feel i'm more mentally able to cope with motherhood .I can't imagine having a baby when I was 21 I don't think I was mature enough but everyone is different,I also think you are more tollerant when you have a baby when you a bit older. Enjoy your life first don't rush into it you'll appreciate life with your child if you've lived first, you don't want to look back and think "if only" for the rest of you life. Good luck.
2006-10-01 10:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by jlb 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are in strong relationship then go for it.
i had my first child at 19 i loved being a young mum because i am in touch with her generation.
but it can be stressful at times a baby can ethier make or break a relationship. although i was on my own with my daughter i did have a strong network of friends and family to help and her dad was seeing her at weekends.
also when you have a baby there is a love so strong and intense you never new it exsisted and it is the most magical feeling ever!!
i hope this helps!!
2006-09-30 08:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 21 when I had my first child and it wasn't easy! I had the support of a loving husband and two full sets of Grandparents and I would still say - phew it wasn't easy! If I had my time again, I would probably wait a few more years but then again, I am still young enough to relate to him on his level and we will both still be youngsters by the time they both fly the nest! I certainly wouldn't have liked to have been any younger!
2006-09-30 08:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,if you feel you are ready to give up your life as you know it.Things change completely even your relationship,some people think that once the baby is born it will fit in around their life the reality is just the opposite, no matter how hard you try.Just make sure both you and your partner are ready for this,you have time on your side.
2006-09-30 08:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by Evieluck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are financially ready and can support your child and also you have a good partner go a head but you have to remember when you have the child it will be there forever and you can't do what you normally do. to see if you are prepared try looking after someone Else's baby for a week or week-end and if you can handle it go a head but if not wait a couple more years
2006-09-30 09:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by qwerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman wants a baby at that age. Its you against evolution girl. The thing is....do you want to be a baby mama? I'll tell you straight that they do not have it easy, no matter what their financial situation is. Protect yourself and your unborn child. Wait till you're married.
2006-09-30 07:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋