I have known my best friend (girl) for 2 years now. I am a guy. We used to be so close, and did absolutely everything together. Now she has a new boyfriend, who she told me about even before they got together. She does everything with him now. When he is free she is with him, and when he is not free she decides to text, phone or meet me. Basically only when convienent for her.
But when we meet up, she does not really want to be there.
I am in two minds with this relationship - either to leave her to it, and let her come and find me when she is ready, or just to stay with her and feel a lot of pain inside. I try to tell her how I feel but she gets angry and so does her boyfriend. I am also jealous and feel very lost.
She is changing. I don't know what to do anymore.
I feel I try my hardest to like her now but it is very difficult after what has happened. The more time goes on the more frustrated I get.
Any advice appreciated
2006-09-30 00:25:40 · 7 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
stop ruining your life, as the girl is plainly using you as her shrink. she has no intention to get into something more deep with you, as you are just there to breach the holes when she is lonely.
sorry, but that's how such boy girl relationships are. if there is nothing intimate or sexual, women plainly use men. never have a woman friend if you do not sleep with her. as for women, really strong friendship or more, always means at one point to get physically close with a man. if not, she is just using you and your kindness.
my advise would be not to forget her, as obviously it is not possible.
start looking around for another girl and just stop responding to her calls and ignore her.
with women, the more you just ignore them, do not call them and worse the day she will see you with another girl, well that day you'll see, suddenly she will find you the most sexy guy on earth and will start hitting on you.
until now, you are just nothing for her, just the good ol dumb friend who's there to hear all her rubbish that she won't even dare to speak out with the other guy who is currently going to bed with her.
dump this stupid relationship and do everything to find another girl, if you want this current girl to give you the slightest interest.
believe me, that's how girls work.
good luck pal...
2006-09-30 00:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not mention how old you and your friend are, however! I think puberty is poking it's head up in this situation, it's o.k. to be friends with somebody when you are young and untroubled by youth, but as your body gives you signals that stir your emotional feelings, then that is the time you cut ties with your childhood friends and start looking for a mate! And I'm afraid that has happened to your friend. She's fell in love! she does not want to leave you, she obviously feels guilty towards you, but her body is telling her something else! Give her space, you never know female emotions are very complicated at her age, she could drop this new friend just like that! But not necessarily come back to you, except as a friend. So don't expect too much! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! Good luck!
2006-09-30 07:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the women are like that. It is not their problem. They are built up that way. I can describe it to you but this space and your understandings of biological psychology may not be enough. Leave it there. We will try to solve your problem. You have to find another girl. You have to begin a new session of romance, that too will end up tragically. But that is life. You have to adjust to this truth. Romance never stays up all your life. That happens only in movies and books. I know it is too hard to forget. But you have no other way. Do not think about suicide. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is a good idea to consult a clinical psychiatrist and take some meds till everything is over. Remember you have to survive. Find a more beautiful girl and show your ex gf that her decision to leave you was the worst decision she ever made in her life. Best of luck.
2006-09-30 07:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ajeesh Kumar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to text your friend or have her agree to meet you somewhere. Tell her and explain the best way you know how, the pain that you're feeling. If she continues to ignore you, you need to leave her alone until she comes to her senses.
2006-09-30 07:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she just ur best friend or some thing more,coz from the looks of it u r in love of her and do not really know that,try letting her read what u have just writ e for us in ur question coz it just expresses ur own true feelings.find out inside ur self if she is just ur best friend or ur unknown lover that u r unaware of it,good luck my friend,i can only imagine what u r going throw right now,god be with u,i hope it all turns out well.
2006-09-30 07:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are nobody for her just like a boring boy to fill up the empty time.Leave any idea to think about her get own life
2006-09-30 07:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find your own gal to spend quality time with and even more let her go she has moved on and you are becoming her impediment
2006-09-30 07:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋