i am a 16 years old girl and i used to love a guy who is 19 years old we used to chat on net but never met in real my parents came to know about my reltionship bcoz we even used calll each other my parents r very orthoxdox and they feel that there should not be a love realationshi in teen age my bro called him and said that dont call my sis from now onwards and soooo we dont have any kind of cntacts with each other now BUT i still love him and dont know what to do i cannot eve n go against my prents and cannot even forget him my email id is even showing as in vaild plz help
2006-09-30 00:04:42 · 16 answers · asked by swatiailsinghani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You must concentrate on your studies. This is an age where tennagers fall in traps and get cheated. I request you to quit your love relationships. In my teenage age a girl loved me I forgot it and made her understand she was from a different community
2006-09-30 02:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by ASHIK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly feels the same way for you as you do for him then he can 1) Wait for an age where your parents wouldn't mind or 2) He can step up and be a real gentlemen and talk to your parents. Having orthodox parents has it's upside because a teenager getting involved in a serious relationship usually creates more drama then actual Love. I say this our of experience mine and my friends.
You are worth a guy having to jump through some hoops for you. In the meantime put your Love into other things, live it up, have fun! go out with some girl friends, join clubs, create hobbies,study hard and ace your tests in school!
This is the time for you to develop yourself into the best young woman you can be before you go out into the world on your own. You'll have plenty of opportunity to Love a man in the future.
Because you have very little responsibility, this is the best time in your life, enjoy it while you can.
I hope this helps!
2006-09-30 00:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by babasha3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling you are just 16years old. if i say you are too young to fall in love you will not agree. the hormones in your body cause this attraction towards the opposite sex.nothing wrong with that attraction. just as a baby cannot ge given solid food till it is 6months of age, so also to fall in love an individual has to be both physically and mentally mature.medically a person is physically mature only by 20-25 years of age.also emotionally a person is ready only after 20years for girls and 26 years for boys.
at sixteen just do things a 16 year old should do----have friends both boys and girls and have fun. concentrate on studies and donot waste time on things you cannot handle.wish you all the best. evrything has to be done at the right timeyour parents want the best for you .bye
2006-09-30 04:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite a few people that have been married for many years have met as high-school sweethearts or teen-agers, but it lasted because they were compatible and maybe perfect for each other... But you never really know if it's true love until your emotions and limitations have really been tested.
Me and my high school girlfriend dated for twelve years but nothing ever became of the relationship. We are not even friends now and we very much cared about each other when we were young. Her mom and dad approved of me and she was accepted as "my girl" by all of my friends and family. So we were close and maybe in love at the time.
But we got separated several times during that relationship for months or so at a time and had time to "grow" and experience new things, people, school, different places, life in general, etc. And as time went on, we weren't so sure we were in love with each other anymore. I really didn't care for her as an adult and she wasn't so happy with me. But we were cool as friends if we didn't spend too much time with each other.
My suggestion is: Use your mind over your heart if you can. Listen to your parents no matter how messed-up their rules are. They are trying to help you get started in life the right way and don't want to see you fail or make any bad choices. That's all it is. They love you too.
And what do you really know about this dude besides what he tells you? Nothing. You don't know his habits, how he lives, his personality when he's around friends, if he's reliable, or responsible, or what. So, you have to trust your parents and if they do let you continue to talk to this guy. Keep it as friends until you can find out more about him. If you can't keep it on a friendship level, then you should chill so that you don't ge too attached and heartbroken, or angry about not seeing him.
You could be in love, but you still have to be cool and use your head. Remember: THIS IS THE NET - THE BIGGEST PLAYGROUND IN THE UNIVERSE!
Brother DzL (AsP)
2006-09-30 00:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents sound very strict and its difficult - but you are 16 and you need to be experiencing the things that other teenagers do - like falling in and out of love and having boyfriends - maybe the problem was because this was a relationship over the internet? you say you love this person but you dont really know him as you really need to meet him in real life first - your still quite young and building this kind of relationship over the internet could be dangerous, I wouldnt stop a 16 year old having a BF/GF but I would have my reservations if it was started the way yours was, try to make some friends in real life but also try make your parents understand that you need to be a normal teenager as well.
2006-09-30 00:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by kinnoishere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know when every couple of years u may will fall in love again , thats normal ur a little sweet girl who's passionate , but its not right to go on a relationship now u still young, most of guys now want sex or want just a girl "for their experience" a guy wont loose a chance to have a gf whatever he loves her or heis acting heis doin, anyways heis 19 and means heis old enough to know that what heis doin is wrong ,if he loves u he'd just talk to u as sister, i dont agree with the way ur family dealt , but i know u can handle that lil one, sorrey for my rusty english , u takecare
2006-09-30 00:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by 2:30AM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya friend,this is true,mostly teenagers fall in love bcoz teenager means 12 to 25,and after then we face so many family obstacles like carrier,marriage,family and relations so on .and if you fall in love then this is not a bad thing but if your family member also know about your love then 1st you try to meat with you lover and just try to knowing each other you lover and your family also.don't confuse teenager fall in love or not bcoz they fall in love so they are called as teenager not oldager .ye just she you grand pa or grand ma the are not fall in love just time pass when they see eachother noly they smiling eachother that solve and it is also a love itself but that love only they remember their past time teenagers have a bright future if they are go on a right way and make good relation.so don't worry friend this is not a big problem.
2006-09-30 00:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo teenage girl can fall in love
but the thing until the boy go
you will never know how much u
love him it happen to me so many
times but i do have my love now
n if i can love a 20 yrol u can love a
19 yrol theres no big diff
but it ur momz n dadz think u should
not tell him to many things about u now
b/c ur only 16 then don't really tell him
to much for ur bro u need to tell him
that 1 thing he don't need to play with in ur life
is ur love life b/c every girl n boy need to
grow up knmowing what can happen to
then when they do something
butthe thing i have to ask u is
DO HE LOVE U TO??
2006-09-30 00:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly She should, to avoid loosing the chance just lying before. But temporarily only. Final decesion for living together should be when, if she satisfy herself for both being capable of future aspects & responsibilities. Otherwise it should be the test of time & age.
2006-09-30 00:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him, but 19 is sorta old for a 16 yr. old.
You're young. There will be others with or without this guy.
2006-09-30 00:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋