Its a festival & holiday time in my country all of my family memebers are out enjoying. My boyfriend is also busy having parties & nights out evreryday, so much so that they are not able to talk wen I call. Me... poor soul am out of country for work, without friend and family, and feeling very nostalgic & lonely. Now the question is the fact that they are enjoying without me is making me all the more sad & pissed off. The feeling that they are not even missing me is making me sulk more. I feel I am jealous or donno what to call it. Is it wrong on my part? atleast my bf, isn't he supposed to feel my loneliness & not be so busy that i can even chat or talk to him? Pls help I dont wanna be immatured & kiddish.
2006-09-29 23:53:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not that they dont talk to me, Wenever i call they do talk rather he doz but somehow i feel I am disturbing him wen hez with his friends and refrain from calling, altho he never stopped me.
2006-09-30 00:15:57 · update #1
I read your question and felt so bad. For me, for you and for all of us, try whatever hard that we may, by going out and meeting at all other times, but to be left out during the celebration time is hard.
But we all try to make it up, yet we had to stay away during these crucial days. Its not in our hands, and we are not doing it on our own choice. When you meet them next try to be as close to them, as always.
I understand your desolute condition, and theirs cant be any better. So, try to keep yourself busy in a lil more meaningful way,as when we work we are not anxious, but the moment we are alone, all the worldly displeasures creep in to our minds and it becomes a hell.
So try to keep yrself busy in something that will keep you busy. Go out to malls, movies, churches, beaches anywhere that keeps you occupied.
Please remember that your family and he loves you and care for you. Remember, they are having no fun, as you think, as they all are as lonely and lovelorn as you are and miss u all the time, specially in the festive season.
Do know that when only you smile at the world, the world smiles back at you. So smile and be healthy and leave all your worries for some other rainy day for some other person to be taken care of.
2006-09-30 11:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by fantasyland 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is: We all want to feel important, loved, cherished, admired, and missed sometimes. And we would expect or at least hope that somewhere, someone is miserable without us or at least desperately wants to be with us. I don't think it's kiddish, but don't playa-hate and get angry and jealous. Send a card if you can (or a letter) and be sure to enjoy the celebration the best way you can where you are. Tell them about your experience and what you're going through to have a good time, but don't expect them to feel sorry for you (that's just a bonus if they do).
Get out and have fun. Don't sit and sulk!
DzL (AsP)
"The Player's Lifestyle"
2006-09-30 07:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are out enjoying then get out and enjoy! that's the only way u'll feel good about urself. take note of all the interesting things that happen in ur life everyday, u could even write them somewhere and when u call home and they start saying how much fun they're having, bring up fun things u've been doing urself. that way u'll have something to say too. as to ur boyfriend, hint that u met some really hot guy. dont exactly say u're doing anything with him but manage to slip his name in almost every fun incident u've had and he'll be on the alert. he'll even start calling u instead. try not to feel sad that u're not there cos things tend to sound alot more fun when someone is describing them. it's probably not that much, and u might even be bored if u were there. and it's natural to feel jealous anyway.
2006-09-30 07:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by divagal08 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all have the right to our feelingsgs .. to make others feel bad, because you want them to; Is very wrong.
I suggest you don't share your true feelin.
Why would want your family and bf not to have fun and enjoy life.
you know you re loved and missed. Why try to make yours self believe any thing else
Do your self and your family a favorite. Go out , you will run into something that will get you from feeling sad
2006-09-30 07:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been away from home at this time for you is hard and maybe it seems like every time you call everyone is busy and to be honest they probably are, getting ready for the celebrations they have , but maybe it would be an idea to explain to them how you are feeling and arrange a time to call when you are both free. this way you can have your conversation and you will feel better. Your BF is also probably missing you as much as you are him, talk to him or he wont know, he cant read your mind Hun. How do you know they are not missing you, I am willing to bet that they are missing you as much as you miss them.
2006-09-30 07:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a bit on the shady side that he doesnt have time to even speak to you when you call. Ya sure he should be out enjoying his life but at the same time if he loved you and missed you he would want to talk to you when you called. I dont think the question is wheather or not he should be going out and having fun..of course he should. I think the question is when you call he shoule "want" to drop everything for that moment and talk with you. Just switch it around if he was away and you were out with your friends wouldnt you love to talk with him when he called? Id ask him whats up!
2006-09-30 07:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you're feeling left out, sad, and jealous of everyone that's having a good time while you're lonely. Your friends and family should at least call you and wish you a happy whatever the occasion is. If they are forgetting you, just be honest and tell them you are hurt that they are forgetting you. What is the occassion anyway?
2006-09-30 06:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by BereaGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As much as this world has to offer, there's no need to sit at home. Get out, find things to do. Let people call you, if they're lucky they'll catch you at home and you might have the time to talk and then again you might not.
2006-09-30 07:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he should be there for you as far as being able to talk to you during your time of need. But in order to do that he would have to sit there on the phone and be miserable with you. He's just trying to have fun
2006-09-30 07:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by []\/[]r ray 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you want him to stay home and sit beside the phone all day in case you call?
Your feelings are natural, but please give the guy a break.
2006-09-30 06:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋