Should I continue living this way?

Question

I have been married for 7 years...My wife has all but kicked me to the curb to sleep with other men... I sleep on the couch because I cannot afford to move out and pay child support at the same time. It is hard because she keeps bugging me. I want to move on but I want to be with my children. My dad was not around for me growing up. What Should I Do?

Answer 1

Sure is a tough one...I thought about you going for custody of your kids, but it's a terrible battle & I'm sure you wouldn't want to put your kids through that, beside the money factor...How about you setting up the basement or attic or anywhere else available in your home, like your own apartment, you could have your own privacy & still be with your kids.

Answer 2

Golly, you should be happy she allows you to sleep on the couch, rather than a blanket out in the garage. Buddy, you are being treated exactly as YOU allow yourself to be treated. You have two choices. You can keep sleeping on the couch, and let your wife keep sleeping with other guys, while you work to pay the bills. Or, you can go to a doctor, and get a new set of testicles. Then you could start acting like a man with a bit of self respect. Pal, I can't see exactly how you can do a lot worse than you are doing now. Move your sorry butt back into YOUR bed, and boot your wife out. Go see a lawyer, and file for divorce. Yup, you MAY end up losing custody of your kids, and MAY end up penniless. But, you MAY end up a single father, with your kids. While courts do tend to favor women in custody and divorce, they aren't totally blind to the fact that some women are lousy people, and don't deserve custody. When I got divorced, I had to live in my car- in Michigan, in the winter. It sucked. But, I eventually got a place to live, and got custody of my daughter. Today, I've got a wonderful wife, and a decent place to live. Things won't improve until and unless YOU change them. So, change things- TODAY. Good luck.

Answer 3

See if your state has a valid law saying you can divorce your wife for infidelity. If So, then sue her for a divorce then ask for compensation from the judge for having suffered through this by citing mental cruelty,etc., and ask the judge to award payment in your name for legal fees. I've actually heard of lots of people doing that before and got awarded. In the mean time I'd change the locks on the house and kick her *** out and tell her to move in with her men. That's what I've done before. Maybe then she'll get a wake up call. I wouldn't take it lying down. Best of luck to you and sorry to hear about this unfortunate situation.

Answer 4

Oh poor guy.... It must be terrific to live as a stranger to your own house! It would be very helpful if you could give us more details about the whole situation. Anyway, if I were you, I would go to a lawyer and I would ask for his advice. I can understand that you want your child to grow up in a normal family and feel the the safety that you were lack of when you was a little child. Why don't you IM to tell more details and maybe we can together find a solution.

Answer 5

Get out of the house. If there is a will there is a way. Any relative or friends to help you? If you want to bring your chil along, you need to find someone help to take care of your kid for you while you need to work. Else, move out alone, concentrate on your career & make more money. You may need a lawyer. If you can prove she is not fit to be the mother, you'll get your child. But, if you think it's better of for your child to stay with the mother (that your child future is more secure with the mother than with you), then, you need to make decision to move out alone.

Answer 6

This may not be the best advice but i will tell you what I did with my husband. If she is helping to pay the bills stay and give yourself some time to say money. Maybe even get a second job if possible. Prepare yourself for this move because it will happen. You don't have to stop being a father to your kids because you don't live with them. and if she makes you pay support make sure you get visitation right and make her uphold them. If she doesn't take her *** back to court.

Answer 7

Cut a written deal with your wife, that allows you to move out and only pay what you can afford to your child support. She then gets what she wants; Got to give to get.
If not , if a garage is available, then set it for your self.

People really need to help each other and not be so selfless. One good act deserves another.

if you are still married and no court order for support.,
Then move out. Make her get a job to. She cant have it both ways. And please stand up . take control and stop being her doormat. Women hate men you give in and allow themselves to be step on and like it

Answer 8

She's not setting a good example for your children. Kick her to the curb!!! You've done nothing wrong. Get some free legal advice.

Answer 9

Pick yourself up off the curb and pack the kids bags and get out of there....Dads have just as many rights as mothers do these days and if you have any proof of her infidelity use it..that gives you even more leverage...and then you could be the one receiving child support...

Answer 10

I think its very courageous of u living with her because of ur kids...it depends: do u thnk u can emotionally go on living like this to be with u r kids? In time, would u be able to are for ur kids if u moved away? If its too hard living with her, move out and try to see ur kids as often as possible...If ur kids mean the world to you and u cant live without them, stay and care for them...try to ignore ur wife as much as possible, she doesnt seem to be worth the pain.....Again i find u very courageous...and truly hope u'll find a way out...have faith.
"our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising everytime you fall"...my friend told me this once, and i find it to be a precious advice.