i am scared im gay?

Question

i dont know what to do i need to speek to someone can any one help i mean last nightb i let a man do things which i have never done, i mean is it ok to swallow and how do i live being gay i love women aswell you see

Answer 1

I think that you are just curious about the things that you did. Most men are. I think that you should, just let life take its route its going to take and live with it. If you like guys thats fine, if you like girls thats fine, if you like both thats ok too. If you need someone to talk to just talk to me i am always open to talk to new friends, I've done both and like the men, I've swallowed and find nothing wrong with it. It is really up to the person doing it. Enjoy life and go the way you want to go. have a great day. You would really be surprised at the amount of gays around you that you dont know are gays.

Answer 2

Take a chill pill and cool it. There is nothing to be frightened about. You are suffering from the bullshi* that has been heaped on you by others about being Bi or Gay...forget about it. When I was 28, I had my first Gay experience, felt nervous, scared, mixed emotions about the whole thing. ... just like you feel. It was meant to be, I am very happy, and wouldn't have it any other way. My problem was that I was married, loved my wife, had a kid...lots of problems. Went through hell for a period, but it all worked out well for all concerned. And contrary to popular belief, nothing came naturally at first. IF you are gay, there is nothing to be frightened about. IF you are not, then it is no big deal either. Take it as it comes and see where you head leads you. Don't worry about anything except being happy. Good luck and peace.

Answer 3

If you're afraid of the fact you may be gay, don't be. Lots of men are gay and while some find out early, some find out later. If you think you would rather NOT be gay then just stop seeing men! Don't go to where men (gays) might come on to you. I mean, if your waiting for a bus and a guy walks up and asks if he can give you a b.j tell him no thank you, you don't go that way. As for the graphic comment, I do it all the time. It's better than spitting! lol!!

I know plenty of ppl who live quite nicely being gay, and some date women as well. The decision to "go both ways" is really your choice! It's really no big deal.

Answer 4

Sexual experimentation is normal, it doesn't mean you are gay and its certainly nothing to be ashamed or afraid of.

You might be gay, gay men are completely capable of performing sexually with women. You might be bisexual and enjoy sex with both genders as it is very different. You might be heterosexual and when you get past the curious stage, never want to be sexual with your own gender again.

You sound young so take advantage of that and enjoy. However, be careful who you share it with, if you live in a culture where you could be harmed then you need to be careful.

You also need to know that sexual experimentation with any gender has long term repercussions if you are not practicing safe sex. Sexually transmitted diseases are not fun and can impact your future horribly. HIV isn't even the worst, if you pick up HPV for instance and pass that to your future female partners you are sentencing them to the very real possibility of cervical cancer, infertility and early death. HPV can lie dormant for decades. Always use barriers when being sexually active, but be aware that barriers won't help you with some sexually transmitted diseases like hepatitis. Obviously unwanted pregnancy will also be a lifelong situation that may haunt you forever. So play safe with both genders.

Answer 5

First off, don't be scared. It's OK to try different things, and it's OK to like them, and just because you liked them doesn't mean you don't have to like women any more.

I'd try and find a neutral party you can talk to about it. If you're in school, try a guidance counselor. If not, there are still plenty of options; a good bet might be seeing if there's a Universal Unitarian church in your area and calling them to ask for any recommendations, since they're open to anyone and many concentrate on working with gay counseling (and not in a "gay equals bad" kind of way, either--more the questioning process you're going through).

Answer 6

You are bi, and there's nothing wrong with being bi, or gay or lesbian or transgendered. You'll probably get some whackjobs posting on here about how it's a sin, it's bad, it's evil. Contrary to what that select group of idiots thinks, there is nothing wrong with being GLBT.

Answer 7

Hon dont worry about labels and society , just be who you are.. probably you love who you love .. and it doesnt have to be a certain gender... if you have to have a label put to it .. it is called being bisexual... or Heteroflexable.... in other words Go on with your bad self... you have the best of both words to choose from...
Blessings,
RiahWIllow

Answer 8

Look I don't like gays
but you are free to be as you like
and remember about 15% of the men are gays so you're not that different one.

Answer 9

You may be bisexual- that is, you like both men and women. Just remember the dieases, and in the long run this is probably just an experiement at your age. Hopefully you'll grow out of it- stastically, theres roughly a 4% chance that you will be gay.

I would suggest a counselor, and a Christian one at that and see if you can work this out

Answer 10

You are not gay, you are bisexual. Unto you I have given the joy of experiencing the pleasure of all my people. Do not let me down!. God loves you for being who you are.