is it wrong to keep on remembering a person i secretly loved few years ago?
I already have a husband now and I heard that he was married, like, 6 years ago?
Actually, only think of him often. Always wished that we will be a couple.
2006-09-29 21:50:01 · 13 answers · asked by sassy girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are wondering what might have been, aren't you????? I believe this is perfectly normal. As long as you don't physically get involved with the man, or let it get in the way of your marriage than I guess it is OK....I am really not sure...because I have actually dealt with the same thing a lot. It probably is wrong to some point, but hard to not do it....Good Luck!
2006-09-29 21:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Brown_Eyed_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, that is a fairy tale you have written in your brain. He is every
thing that your immagination takes you. When things go bad or you are bored, he is your knight in shinning armor. Your memories of him are seen through you expectations of what you assumed he would be and could be. He will be what you missed out on in lilfe. Don't go there. Don't keep him alive in your memory. Don't miss out on your real life escaping to a place that never was and never will be.
Odds are that he isn't anywhere close to what your romantic heart feels him to be. Odds are if you were a couple you would regret it.
He has become your escape to a world where everything is perfect.
Find something else to consume your energies.
Next time you kiss you husband, kiss him like he is your prince charming. You will be amazed that life is what you make of it.
2006-09-30 05:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it interfering with your current relationship?
If yes - then yes it is wrong. If no, then enjoy the memories, and understand that it didn't work out for a reason. Try to focus on your marriage, and remind yourself why you fell in love,,,,,,probably has something to do with the fact that this man loves you in ways that the other man couldn't or wouldn't. Leave the past where it is, you'll only cause yourself much, much pain.
2006-09-30 05:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by eastbaygoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh this gets asked a lot. Even tonight. Browse a bit to look for others opinions. Mine is just one, but why is it we are hooking up with people who aren't the one in our lives. You made a mistake honey, and you probably can't change it to the other guy, so just forget it. Grow up.
2006-09-30 05:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell u what girlfriend all women have a secret love/crush they feel they cant do without at one point of their married life, the selfish ones act upon it, but the wise ones practise restraint.
2006-09-30 05:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,you need to move on in life...see,as long as thing are in thoughts its not wrong because one doesnt have control on thoughts but when it starts becoming action then its bad...
i suggest atop thinking about having him and being with him,you have a family now,concentrate on it and make your future happier and loving along with your husband!!good luck!!
2006-09-30 04:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's some ideal relationship that you are dreaming of. Be careful & enjoy what you have in your life because your dreams might not match this person's reality.
2006-09-30 05:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lasha♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a "first true love" and that is always remembered, so stop beating yourself up over it.You must love your husband now or you wouldn't have married him.
2006-09-30 05:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all have done that! The wrong happens if you act on it, if you or he is still married to others!
2006-09-30 04:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend you are on a wrong track
2006-09-30 04:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by babu m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋