my husband have cheated on me; i have forgive him, but have not forgotten ; the worst thing about this situation is that the other woman keeps looking for him and harrasing him. why does'nt she just stay away?? she knows that he has a family. need advised on what to do??? should i just run him out for good??
2006-09-29 20:45:20 · 13 answers · asked by mamas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
are u sure that she is harrasing him and not that u are just catching them talking and he turns it around and says that she wont leave him alone????? i doubt this women is doing this with out reason, i would look a little deeper i bet they are still seeing each other. sorry about ur situation
2006-09-30 05:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by angelface8074 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find this SLAPPER and give her the big whats up cause if you love your man then you will do anything to hold on to him i know I've been there and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. It is also up to him to tell her to **** off and if he wont there's a problem and you should give him the flick cause he doesn't really love you he is just getting the best of to worlds and you are better than that. I took the extreme way and let one of his good mates stay for a weekend not in the way your thinking just hung out when he found he came running home and left her for dust and has found out what shes really like (A SLAPPER) so stick to your man show him that he's yours only so good luck be strong.
2006-09-29 23:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by 3kids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are into this form of intrigue and wouldn't be satisfied with a normal, wholesome relationship.
However, if your husband can never be trusted, I don't know what to tell you. You've made every effort to forgive him and remain with him, which is commendable and beyond the call of duty. You've been an honorable wife, and unfaithfulness represents both legal and moral grounds for divorce, but I would still hate to see that if it can be avoided. You might need to have some more serious talks with him.
2006-09-29 20:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blame your husband. He's the one that did it. Of course she's just as wrong for having an affair with a married man. I guess it's too late to advise you both to sit down and watch "Fatal Attraction". You make him deal with this woman but don't be surprised if he cheats again.
2006-09-29 20:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, It is all very very simple, We all are looking for a perfact match, when you both got married, u both had diffrent views and expactations, {Expactation} Now this is the root cause of all the problems, we want our partner to understand our every need, without realising even he is expacting the same in return.
In your case what has happned, may be certain acts of that lady which your husband always wanted from you attracted him to her and she responded in a positive manner, which led to your husband cheating you. After everything has been exposed in front of you, may be your husband has realised his mistake and you have also forgiven him, but as you said that he is still being chased and harresed by that women,
Pls. understand The other lady is not leagly tied with your husband, in this case your Husband needs to be firm that he dose not want to be associated with that lady and he should boldly refuse any further contact to that lady. If he is working with that lady, then he needs to change his job for the betterment of his family.
if that lady still dose not listan to him or dose not stop this contact, then in order to safe guard your husband, pls. go to the nearest police station and lodge a formal complaint against her, as you should understand if that lady dose it first, ur husband will be in trouble, as law favours lady more.
In all this you need to be with your husband, If he really loves you, in that case you need to show him that in all the times, good or bad you are there to take care of him. Be firm in your approch and why u need to run away, are you a cowerd, learn to take the fight of life. no need to run from it.
God Bless You
2006-09-29 21:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by life is to share 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and confront her. SET THE BOUNDARIES!
Let her know you are more than prepared to take LEGAL ACTION. Those 2 words are pretty powerful...
HE also needs to make it loud and clear so their is no question. He may have to move and/or change jobs in order to save his marriage, which he should be willing to do considering it was him who got ya'll into this mess in the first place. His role right now is to be 100% compliant with whatever you say.
His bed...he can lie in it...ya know?
You can do it! You have to do this!
Good luck babe :)
2006-09-29 20:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away for a month or so totally, but keep and eye on moments to understand what is really cooking up. try if u have not done.
2006-09-29 21:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by PG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are scum of the earth. this lady was seeing my dad behind my mom's back.,,,his secretary!!!! when my mom died last year, he took her insurance money and bought this b***ch a car!!! to put the icing on the cake.....he moved me out of my parent's home, because they were still married and so the house went to him even though i cared for her during her last years....he moved this brawd right in like "thank you fro disrespecting my family all of these years"
whew
i vented...thanx. please read what i wrote, take heed and learn from my experience.
women who mess with married men are scum and so are the men who are obliging
2006-09-29 20:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you forgive someone you need to forget, or its not forgiveness! If this women is harrassing you, and your family call the police, and let them know what is going on!
2006-09-29 20:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by Peachy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband needs to put his damn foot down and MAKE her stop, if he is sending her mixed messages she'll keep it up. HE HAS TO MAKE HER GO!
2006-09-29 22:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋