I am so confused about which sex to go for, i just don't know what to do anymore. I like to look at guys and girls. With a girl i want to be the 'guy' in the relationship. Be romantic for them. And with a guy i'd be the girl (of course) but most guys i meet these days are just jerks and i can't get a real relationship with them. Guys mostly just make me frustrated now. I just don't know what to think. Am i bi or lesbian? Or maybe i'm transgendered? I would like to have a honest insight about this from someone who wont look down on me about this.
2006-09-29 20:03:03 · 22 answers · asked by perseusevns 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sexuality - is something that can not be tied down by definitions of 'gay', 'bi' or 'straight'. All our friendships/relationships are defined by some form of attraction. Therefore the fact you have some kind of attraction for both sexes is perfectly natural and honest. What you need to do is get away from trying to define yourself as the 'man' or 'woman' in a relationship and settle for the kind of relationships that truly make you happy. The problem is, from what you have said, is you are looking to hard. Stop looking and start enjoying your relationships for what they are, rather than what they aren't and then you'll be able to answer your own questions! Good luck wit this, my friend, it is never easy, but trust me it will be worthwhile and it'll help preserve some sanity!
2006-09-29 20:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax and go with the flow..there is no reason to put a label on yourself, no need to work within confines. Do as you want with whom you want, just don't lie and hurt people along the way. You are NOT transgendered, that is for sure. That is a whole other story and you don't need to go there. Give it time and you will settle down. You would be amazed at how many women are exactly like you...function with either, but have a preference for one...no big deal. Stop making more of it than it is. Good luck and peace.
2006-09-30 10:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perseusev...,
I had an e-mail that was along these lines earlier. What Are you?
I mean what do you do? Are you only either Bi or homo or hetero? Are you a waitress, a student, a salesperson? Anything other than something that has to so with sex?
You see, it's the function of sex that you want, not the things that are more meaningful. Like intimacy, friendship, love, togetherness. You can have those things and have sex. But from what I am noticing, you are leading with your sex.
Don't make a decision on what you are. Just put that thing away. You just seem lonely. You are just like most of us. Be at peace with yourself! Please.
2006-09-30 03:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are having an identity crisis right now. It is hard though to tell if your a bi or a lesbo. It depends on how you feel around a guy and a girl. Maybe right now you are just looking for the right person who'll treat you right and whom you can love. Just like I was before I thought (and even my dad thought I was a lesbo) because I never wore skirts and I only liked girls. This moment in your life will pass anyway it just takes time to know who you really are. But I guess you should talk to someone who can really help you like a counsellor. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-30 03:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by cheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with bi if you are attracted to both males and females. Lesbians have no attraction to the opposite sex, so I'd cross that off the list.
I don't think you are a transgender since you haven't mentioned wanting to become a man or feeling "right" as a man.
Honestly, I think you are bi, but leaning towards women.
2006-09-30 03:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound bi.
Don't get frustrated about finding a relationship. Even if most guys you meet are jerks, there should be at least one or two who aren't. If you want to talk more about it, here's my email:
banethemaddemonslayer@yahoo.com
2006-09-30 10:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sexually attracted to both men and women then you are bisexual; it is no more complex than that. If you decide you are fed up with all men (a shortsighted attitude if you ask me) and decide to only be with women then you are still bi, you just abstain from men. "Transgendered" is a nonsense term.
2006-09-30 03:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...
transexual is a queer, a drag queen.
I think you should think about it carefully. which are u going to choose,
If u marry a girl, there will be a risk, especially if u live in homophobic countries. U might be lost your job or being kicked out from your family.
If u have religion, pray to God. Think this carefully. wait until your match come, follow your heart`s voice.
2006-09-30 05:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Papilio paris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably a Bi-sexual or you haven't met a real man who could make you feel female; don't stress on it girl love will come to you.
2006-09-30 03:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by BABY LOONEY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the ony way to get a real answer is to look deep in your self and there you wil find the answer thats where i found mine and i know you will 2 so good luck its hard and dont come out to people until u finally know b/c it just gets harder that way
all right?
peace
edwin
2006-09-30 03:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Edwin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋