Why is it that everytime me and my husband fight. I have to cry. It makes me so sad to fight with him, even though we dont fight on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. When ever we do fight, it really hurts me. I wish I could be this strong woman who didn't cry. But to see him not talk to me and for some reason I picture my life without him and it's the saddest thing. Who can help me be tough!!??
2006-09-29 19:54:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Crying is fine. It's a release of all your stress and frustration. Just because you cry it doesn't mean you aren't strong, it just means you have feelings and that is a good thing!
Just curious, does he give you a hard time about crying? Why do you feel so bad about it?
2006-09-29 19:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think You are a wimp, just really in love with him. It is an emotional thing, to get angry at one you love, or have them angry at you. I'll bet there is probably name calling, as well as threats of leaving, etc,, during the arguements, and it hits home each and every time it is done. This needs to stop. Threats of this type are designed to go for the heart, and are made to hurt, to get in the dig, or the last word. Arguements should NOT include names, nor threats of leaving, and should never be about going for the most emotional pain possible. Neither side wins these arguements, both sides just hurt, and eventually it will lead to one or the pther leaving, being driven away because of the pain. Both of you need to sit down and talk about this. Get past the pain, and get to know each other without the digs. I used to use threats of leaving, or withholding my love, having even thrown my wedding band at the one I love, until I realised how much I was hurting Her. We sat down, and made some ground rulles for arguing, and havent really fought since then. We still disagree on some things, but the bitter, hateful name calling, and threats of leaving have stopped. We love each other very much, more, possibly, since setting down rules of engagement, so to speak. Hope this helps.
2006-09-30 03:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Darqblade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the nature of your arguments but you say you think you will lose him every time one occurs. I see why this can make you cry but it's not likely going to come to him leaving you over a spat. You say yourself you rarely argue, could I assume that is because you normally get along well? Arguments happen and they are a normal part of a relationship. Don't take it so hard. Getting emotional keeps you from expressing your side of the disagreement with clarity. It's all about communication and tears sometimes send the wrong message.
2006-09-30 03:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like every argument/fight/whatever feels earth-shattering to you. What you gotta realize is that every couple gets into at least one fight, some more than that, just because people are human and everyone's different, so conflicts must arise because not everyone's willing to compromise and understand each other instantly, sometimes at all. Also realize that chances are that, unless you guys fight constantly as opposed to once in a while, you guys aren't going to get a divorce, so unless things get bad, just, if you can, forget about that notion for now LOL :D
2006-09-30 03:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the fight. Don't sweat the small stuff, and things will be much easier. If it's an important issue that really has merit being discussed, then state your point and then let your husband state his, but try not to let it boil into a full blown argument. Life is much bigger than small little fights, try and keep a bigger perspective.
2006-09-30 03:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by ipodder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to change. God made women compassionate and intuitive for a reason. It's okay, besides we are strong because we know we handle physical pain better than men. It's okay to hurt...and it's okay to cry. Why does the crying bother you...it's the fact that you fight that should bother you. Why are you fighting? Get it fixed...you deserve a harmonious marriage...get it that way.
Good luck babe :)
2006-09-30 02:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you picturing life without him? It's just a fight. Don't let your mind get carried away, thinking the end is near.
Just focus on the issue at hand. Calmly solve the problem and you won't end up in tears.
2006-09-30 03:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well young lady,
and thats what i'm going to call your husband, cause it seems that if he's getting the tears everytime instead of the selfconfident women u are,well he's the insecure one,by ending the fight with your tears not his,men seem to have this invisable switch inside,try next time by focusing on the one solid reason that is at matter,of the fight not allowing him to innipulate the control of the fight and if he doesnn't put closure of it..then beet him down by not feedding in to his pycoligy,..
and walk away , then dropping it!!!
2006-09-30 03:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by esyplumbing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with you if you have to be so terrified he will leave that you cry you need therapy you're married he can't just leave it's a whole process so knock it off get mad ARGG! Just f him up once after that you will feel much better it's ok to get upset when you argue with him you love him and it sucks to disagree with the man in your life but remember men have a lot less respect when they can think see she can't stand up to me.
2006-09-30 03:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey crying doesn't make you weak. wheni have a fight with my husband sometimes i become so fustrated and upset i cry. he consols me then when i'm overe my tears we talk out our problems and we are able to get over our problems. what does your husband say about your crying?
2006-09-30 03:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by lil_mama_200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋