Why do straight guys watch lesbian porn when they have a girlfriend they love? Do you consider that cheating or do you think he doesnt love me? I heard that guys can separate sex from love, is it true?
2006-09-29 19:53:39 · 14 answers · asked by MiMi 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Many guys watch porn even though they have a girlfriend or wife. To some it means something more to some it's personal recreation. The only way for you to know what it is to your guy is to talk about it. Many guys do love their SO and hide the fact that they are watching porn so that they won't hurt the one they love.
Why do straight guys watch lesbian porn? IMO it's because they can imagine doing all women, in straight porn there is usually men too, straight guys don't get off on men.
Only you and him can tell if it's cheating and if he loves you or not. My thumb rule on cheating is that it is lying about something that the partner would not find acceptable.
I drool when I see Russel Crowe that doesn't mean that I don't love my husband. I'm fully capable of seeing the difference between fantasy and reality and I think most guys are capable of it too.
2006-09-29 20:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by *duh* 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Sex to males (and probably females) is a twofold subject. One side is pleasure, the other side is the love. Guys are stimulated visually which makes porn a big buisness. He is not cheating because he is not engaging in an affair or loving the woman he is with less. However, porn addiction can cause problems with the male idea of sex and distort reality. He might also begin to focus more on the pleasure than the love side of sex.
2006-09-29 20:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by zifmer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is totally cheating. If he was really truly satisfied with you in everything, he wouldn't need to watch porn. He does not love you. I had a boyfriend before that had the same problem with watching porn especially lesbian and he always told me he loved me and I let him watch it but it got to be too much. He kept saying that he would stop but he never did. I eventually just dumped him and you need to do the same. Don't get fooled by letting the guy say a bunch of bull sweet talk and all those sorries to get you to love him or forgive him. Guys who watch porn when they have a girlfriend is not worth my time and is not worth yours. And trust me, guys cannot seperate sex from love. It is all the same to them.
2006-10-02 02:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by liszt 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Men are wired for sex, We all knew this--but it is explained by a neurologist in a recent book "The Female Brain." So yes--they have a great capacity for seperating love from sex.
The appeal of lesbians to straight guys has always seemed a bit strange to me. Of course, they have a kinky view of what they percieve lesbian sex to be. I think they just like the idea of two hot girls going after it. Of course, they think it would be much better if they were involved.
This is all natural with guys--and if a bf is doing it--I would not worry about it.
2006-09-29 20:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, WE do.
But these girls are no real lesbians. They pretend to
be lesbians. It is just a game. Porn-movies
are mostly produced by
a male director.
And he knows the male point of VIEW !!!
He must know. But it is a game... nothing serious.
2006-09-29 23:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm assuming you caught your boyfriend watching lesbian porn. Now it's eating away at the very core of your being.
If that's the case, dump him.
2006-09-29 20:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tara & Chris R 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First it is not cheating
Second lezi porn is kool
third I dun know about the sep sex luv
2006-09-30 05:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dunno - I figure cos it's unattainable because if they were lesbians they'd not want anything to do with a guy's bits.
I don't think it's cheating as such but it's inconciderate to your feelings if you don't like him watching it.
As far as I'm concerned porn is cheap ugly sex with cheap ugly people yuk yuk yuk
2006-09-29 20:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I used to like it because it makes us guys wonder if she can do that to her, then that could be any guy to take that advantage, but I consider it not cheating just lust, and its not cute anymore when you realize this is a big epidemic when to females make love to eacother, due to the fact its funny when one female can think she can penetrate another lol!
2006-09-29 20:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Liszt seems kind of angry. To me who cares. If it doesn't become an obsession and a lot of money isn't spent and children are protected from it. really who cares? Everything in moderation!
2006-10-02 07:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by cirdellin 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋