2006-09-29 19:46:04 · 8 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was brought up in a strict/abusive environment...not allowed to date...kicked/out moved out after highschool... moved 150 miles away....met a guy that I thought was kind of nice. We ended up getting married 5 months later... I didn't know anything about drugs.. I found out that he was doing drugs a year after we were married and I had my first child. We stayed together for 10 years and 2(total) children later. I encouraged him to find work. I paid for his rehab/court costs thru the years of misgivings. He cheated on me/stole from my children and I. He had a gun to his head on several occasions by being around the wrong people. During the last year of marraige he stepped over the line and stole my car and gave it to some people. I hadn't seen him for a couple of days. I was called at work by a sherrif asking me if I knew where my car was?? They found my car in a bad neighborhood with a bunch of people around it. They were going to torch my car. They found my x-husband's underware under the driver's seat.
On another occasion he scared my children and I by calling me up on a payphone saying that he was being chased by demons in a van and he sees sheep in the street.
The final straw which I can't count all of the stories is when he tried to throw himself out of my car while I was driving because he didn't want me to leave him. He did this in front of my children.
I value marraige, however there is a limit to what a person can handle. I have always worked and I can't stand seeing a grown man laying around being decitful and I could no longer tolerate this behavior.
I filed for divorce and never looked back. 5 years later I found out that he is in rehab and is getting help.
You might wonder why a person would put up with this??? Well, I'm a smart person... I pretty much got straight A's in highschool. I also went to college. I would say that It was due to my upbringing. I'm a survivor and I'm helping myself to never again be abused like this again. I broke a chain that would have been in my children's upbringing.
I'm currently married to my husband and we love each other and bring up all our kids in a Christian environment and encourage them to be the best they can be. This is something that I wasn't given.
Take care
2006-09-29 20:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 20 the first time and my ex started doing drugs and tried and i do mean tired to get physical. I wouldnt let him and ended up hurting him everytime he tried...I was married 6 months and no way was i going to stay in that type of relationship, so i packed my clothes and took my car and left everything else behind...Im now married to a wonderful man and couldnt be more happier.....
2006-09-30 02:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband of ten years began to treat me badly,picking fights and name callings, than a day after christmas he said he was leaving, a few months later he admitted to having a girlfriend,and the blaming began, he refused to help me with the housepayment, or anything, i suggested counciling, but he refused, i got a divorce because i was hurt, and gave up hope.i just wanted it to be over with.
2006-09-30 10:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason i divorced my. ex. wife was she was cheating in my home while i was at work and she had the nerve to bring that in my own home while i was at work and do her thing i divorced her in.2003?
2006-09-30 03:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i almost did.....i split upwith my hubby for two years and filed for divorce. Everytime the papers were served on him he tore them up. Just as well as we are now reunited and his behaviour saved the expence of another wedding.
2006-09-30 02:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by lelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HAVENt got married yet. I DID break up with a man(bf) that cheated on me once.
2006-09-30 02:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he was cheating behind my back!
2006-09-30 02:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by marynew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he didn't know how to be faithful.
2006-09-30 20:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋