2006-09-29 19:14:39 · 14 answers · asked by chayi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen...I didn't fix my marriage and two years later I regret it and my heart is still broken. Go to counseling and do whatever it takes to respect and trust eachother again b/c without those two no relationship works. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-29 19:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I could answer that and bottle it I'd be very rich. However, the secret, and I've been through this is: 1) Don't jump into another relationship, discover yourself again without a partner; 2) take some grieving time; 3) Distract yourself whenever you're tempted to think about it lightly and have a good cry when you're not; 4) Share it with your GOOD friends; 5) Do things you wanted to do but couldn't with your (ex) partner; 6) Discover something new. You are a valuable person and should not relate to yourself as others relate to you. Accept it takes time. As Abe said "Sometimes it feels like all is darkness, but there is a light to the end of the tunnel and just knowing that helps feel better now." Things will be fine in time. Value yourself and take it as it comes. Sometimes you will be overwhelmed with emotion. That's fine. You are a wonderful person. Always remember that.
2006-09-29 19:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by wilf69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though right now it seems like it's not gonna get better. I promise you, it will!! Pray is the best thing to do at this time if your life, and whatever you do dont loose your self esteem. Whatever drove your marrage away or what ever caused your heart to be broken. I'm sure wasn't your fault., remember God will never give us anything he know's we can't handle.
Take Good Care of you, and put your self first, put a smile on your face and be the person you know you can be! Oh and watch UNDER THE TUSCUN SUN. it's a great movie!!
2006-09-29 19:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Trina Sledge 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i can suggest is if you really love your spouse and its a mutual thing, then you got to try to put whatever happened behind you and make a fresh start. It's not the easiest thing to do, i know first hand. My husband was cheating on me with numerous broads and it made me sick. I almost went to prison because of it-i was tired of it. He would hit me if i would tell him something i knew he was doing and he'd deny it of course.The worse part about it was i was ALWAYS right.He even got his ex pregnant abd the ***** kept the baby. I know some may say i am the stupidest person on earth, and at times i do to. I know he loves me and we have a child together so i decided to try and work it out for his sake. As far as church goes, I don't believe in that remedy at all. Unless you already participate in going to church than thats a different story. Good luck
2006-09-29 19:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Da1uWanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage shouldn't have any broken hearts involved
2006-09-29 19:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by likeitis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
It is u and only u who can solve this problme none else as u alone know what is the reason for this and u know who is at fault.If u think fault lies in u than it is better to go to ur lover and say sorry for wht u have commited.If ur lover is at fault and approaches u better forgive and patch up as soon as possible because this problem should not b delayed for long time and should b resolved at the earlierst.
Your
ravi
2006-09-29 19:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by ravinder b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to do that myself. Not easy as I was a cheater. She wanted me back. I came back trying to fix the marriage. She is sometimes not very understanding. I think both of us need help.
2006-09-29 19:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by jaded2809 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get some counseling. A good church should be able to help. Selfishness by BOTH is usually the biggest problem. You had a lot in common when you first started out .. you can rekindle that but you need help. Go to one of the newer, larger growing churches and ask for help .. they will help you or refer you to someone who can help..
2006-09-29 19:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open your mind, and review what lessons you can learned from your ralationship? If there are things that you can changed from your own side, then ask for another chance of reconcilition with your spouse, if things will not go for better to rebuild your lost relationship, then accept it that life must go on with or without your spouse, that's why you know how to live independently also..
2006-09-29 19:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH of you go to church and invite the LORD in your heart. G0d heals marriages.
2006-09-29 19:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋