I am 30 years old, soon to be 31. My girlfriend is 18.
We have known eachother for two years and have been seeing eachother for four months. We have become extremely close in the past month and I can truly say that I am in love with her without having doubts, etc.
The only thing which concerns me is that she is so young. I am usually not attracted to such young women because to me, they are like children but my girlfriend happened to stand out. She really impressed me and when I am with her, I feel like I am with a mature woman. I normally date women 25+ but this relationship somehow came to be. I honestly think it was meant to be seeing as our relationship is so random and sudden.
Should I feel bad that she is so young?
I am already in that stage in my life where I feel the need to settle down, but i am sure she is far away from being the same way.
what can I do?
2006-09-29 19:02:06 · 20 answers · asked by *SEP* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To one of the answers:
No, she is not young enough to be my daughter. Since when do people have children at 12 years old?
Most girls don't even have their periods at that age. All 3 of my sisters got their periods after 13.
2006-09-29 19:08:38 · update #1
Age doesn't matter, when it comes to love. As long as you love and understand each other, and you are happy with each other. Why bothered when she makes your world go around. I've seen 30 yr old woman with a 60 yr-old man, happily married.. a young man with a mature woman, yet they get along and happy. Why would you prefer a 25+ woman, if she acts like a child, you know what I mean? There are young women who are mature-minded and old women who are immature. If you really love her, don't let her go...be happy!
2006-09-29 19:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by odel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT normally a good idea. You may be ready to settle down BUT she is just a child ..very infatuated with the fact that you are interested in her but when you are older it is going to probably be a problem. If you REALLY feel like you want to pursue this then you are going to HAVE TO wait until she is at least 22 or 23 years old before you consider marriage so that she is not a "child" any longer but is adult enough to think it through and make a wise decision. Can you wait? If YES then stick it out .. if not them move on and let her get to know others her own age..
2006-09-30 02:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel bad that she's young. She is an adult after all. And I'm pleased that you're happy together. My advice is just to enjoy it while it lasts. People change a LOT between 17/18 and their early twenties. Her needs and priorities may change, or you might not want to be with the person she becomes. But that's all stuff for the future. Right now, enjoy each other and just see what happens.
2006-09-30 02:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and my husband is 10 years older than me. I had men as much as 15 years older want relationships. I don't believe age matters too much. But i do have a concern about her being young and the fact that what she wants may change with age. And that your interests may differ someday. You may slow down when she has hit her peak for wildness. And she has little to no experience with relationships. Stick around, be supportive, communicate. Ignore rude comments from people who don't know whats going on.
2006-09-30 02:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by TNT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my brother's has had a string of relationships with young girls (18-20) and it has brought him nothing but trouble and heartache. He also always said 'but she's really mature for her age'. He is finally starting to figure out that young girls who are 'really mature for their age' are still not done maturing and are likely to 'grow out' of the relationship. Consider how different a person you are now from when you were 18. If you really love her, take it slow and encourage her to get an education and become independant. And don't be too broken-hearted if she drifts away.
2006-09-30 02:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by sueflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just have to feel the relationship out over time. Give it 6 mths or maybe a yr. By then you should know where it is going. If you appreciate each other and have positive outlooks on things, Great! If it is just a passing thing, enjoy it. You know what to look for in your next relationship. Just live your life and if it feels good go with it.
2006-09-30 02:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by pearlshell2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18, most young girls aren't mature enough to make decisions about their future, of this magnitude. Of course, at that age, they think they know everything. Whether you see it now or not, it is not, nor can be a compatible relationship. She is too young for you.
2006-09-30 02:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by Linda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your GF may be an adult, but she won't really be a woman and know what she wants for at least 7 more years. She has got a lot of growing up to do before she is ready to settle down like you. You should move on.
2006-09-30 02:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My 20 year friend is dating a 36 year old man. I'm crushing on a guy thats 17 years older than me and im 26. Just treat her right and age shouldnt matter!
good luck!
2006-09-30 02:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is okay to be in love with her but there is no need to rush anything. give her the time to grow before taking any further steps. if you both truly love each other then waiting will be okay. you are right that she is far from ready to settle down there is no reason to rush things and stack the odds against your relationship. go slow and good luck
2006-09-30 02:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by answer lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋