my husband has been working for a prison for the last year we've been married. And ever since he got that job, he pays no attention to me, and it's all about his job. The thing is that I'm really tired of it and seriously thinking about a divorce! AM I OVER REACTING???
2006-09-29 18:56:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to talk to him. Communication always helps. :) I wish you luck!!!
2006-09-29 18:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way about my job. It is the satisfaction of doing a job well, and getting praise for it. Your age plays a part in it too. If you are a younger couple, then I imagine his drive to succeed and make something of his self, is like a "drug". You will just have to face the facts, and realize he is not going to change. He is a workaholic, plain and simple. It has nothing to do with you, so if you bring it to his attention, don't ***** about it. He will just work even more. I was accused of having an affair, which I wasn't. Instead she was the one messing around. Unless you have cold hard facts he is, do not accuse him. Be thankful that you have a man that is willing to work hard to obtain his career goals. It sounds like you want all the attention, and are jealous he receives satisfaction from something else. Not every guy is preoccupied with sex. There are more fulfilling activities for some people. Maybe you should find some hobbies, and expand your mind, and see how it feels before you gripe at him. If you can't take the diminished attention, get divorced, and face the facts that he finds happiness in something other than just you.
2006-09-30 05:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by justsurviv'n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Working at a prison is stressful even for those who love the job. He's still new to it. The "novelty" will wear off soon then you can be the center of his attention
2006-09-30 01:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try backing off for awhile. Develop you own interests and allow time for the novelty of the job to wear off.
Maybe it would be helpful for you to meet the wives of his coworkers and see if they are having the same problem.
Prison work can be intense. Encourage him to talk about his experiences with you. He probably needs someone to talk to.
2006-09-30 02:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually no your not over reacting at all. if i was you i would divorce him too but before u do that just try to talk to him and if he doesnt do anything and acts the same then tell him u want a divorce..
2006-09-30 02:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. It sounds like there are underlying issues. When a man prefers to stay at work, rather than home, it usually isn't out of some great love for his job, but underlying issues at home. You need to communicate.
2006-09-30 02:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Linda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some lingerie or get some handcuffs and put them on him and hand cuff him to the bed so he will pay attention to you try something different with him and see what happens before you get a divorce I hope I helped you out some.
2006-09-30 02:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by tootles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should talk it over with him, about how tired are you. you know you should be his priority since you are his wife. guys do tend to be workaholic you know but if it is in real excess then there's something wrong. you're not over reacting you're just looking at the problem and i hope you'll soon find the solution
2006-09-30 02:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he loves his job more than you ? Do you have a gauge to measure love-to-prison vs. love-to-wife ? Or does he call you "my little cell" or "my beloved inmate" ? Stop deluding yourself and be a mature person, talk to him.
2006-09-30 02:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him of your feelings.
let him understand that you are do thankful for him being responsible but you have to explain that i order for the relationship to grow you and hoim need to spen time- quality time
this will develop trust also
2006-09-30 02:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by crystalink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THE FACT ,THAT HE LIKES HIS JOB IS GOOD .MOST PEOPLE DON'T. HES NOT OUT DRINKING . OR WITH THE GIRLS . SO MAYBE YOU ARE OVER REACTING ,
2006-09-30 02:04:20 · answer #11 · answered by tia c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋