Confusion?

Question

I am a 17 year-old female, and I like boys and girls, but I act, dress, and think like a male. I don't like boys in the "boyfriend" fashion, just in a sexual fashion. Girls, however, I like in both girlfriend and sexual fashion. Am I turning lesbian, or am I turning into a dyke (what is that, by the way?) Please help me, I;m very confused.

Answer 1

confusion has as it's root a feeling of guilt. Go back to that and decide why you feel guilty and if in your heart (not your rationalizing mind) if you should be guilty. Perhaps you are using men b cuz of their weakness, or maybe you feel same sex relations are wrong and you are just runningfrom something, or several other scenarios, but what is important now is that you figure out what is going on b4 it gets clouded by a mind that wants to act regarless of your feeling. Once that becomes a dominant behavior it is difficult to reverse and you just keep going deeper into a double bind within yourself

Answer 2

Relax.........it is okay to feel what you feel. Question yourself and get to know who you truly are.

Do not worry about labels....... lesbian..... dyke........ whatever. Human sexuality is more complex than a few labels. Find happiness and love, don't worry about what you think you need to label yourself as.

The most important thing you can do in life is BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

Answer 3

you sound very confused. I think that for right now you should be more concerned with school work or getting a job or something I hope that you are protecting your self while having all that sex.

Answer 4

you are not turning into anything abnormal.
I went threw a stage in my life where I craved the soft love of a woman, its ok
http://www.avert.org/hsexu2.htm
here is a cite I hope helps you

huggzzzzz it will all be ok no matter what. you are ok