I recently had a baby and after that our sex life has not exactly been good i was 15 when i got pregnant but now where married and we used to do it everyday like 4 times a day but now we jsut dont really do it anymore and i want to make him happy but its just not seaming that fun anymore and when we did do it 4 times a day it was great but now its not! please help
steph
2006-09-29 18:25:06 · 29 answers · asked by jsbabb1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im 17 now and happily married we have not had sex in like a month though and i love being a mother and wife i wouldnt give it up for anything!
2006-09-29 18:36:35 · update #1
my son is turning 1 year old in a week and its been like this sence he was born
2006-09-29 18:39:16 · update #2
yeah, thats what happens. it'll get better in time.
2006-09-29 18:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure I understand. Is it you or your husband that has lost interest or both? Lack of sex after pregnancy is not that rare. There can be many reasons, such as hormonal changes in the woman, the woman or man can have emotional issues because the sexy lover has become a mommy and some people believe mommys don't behave like that. Sometimes after child birth women just don't feel attractive anymore. I assume it is a severe problem or will become on. Depending on who has lost interest you might want to consult your physician or if it is one or the other (or both) of you it might be worth seeking a marriage councelor. Of coarse sex plays a huge role in a relationship so it is important to get help before things get really bad. I also hope the two of you communicate about the problem and are willing to work on getting the problem resolved together. I hope this gets you going in the right direction. Best of luck.
2006-09-30 01:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this brings back some heavy memories. I felt the same way after I had my daughter. I didn't enjoy sex for yrs later. The child was a part of the sex thing. Therefore when I had sex I thought of the product of pain. I knew he could never know the pain involved with labor. I then was a committed wife and mother. Enjoying sex was kind of out of the question. My role had become mother and wife! You kind of lose your identity. It is not about your anymore. It is about everything else. Make sure you have a good birth control, and try to relax. You have control of the situation! Maybe have a glass or 2 of wine early in the evening.
2006-09-30 01:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by pearlshell2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah well you just squeezed a watermelon out yur wazoo. Your hormones are all out of whack. You've got a screaming kid in the next room and your boobs are leaking all over the place. I'd feel in the mood too. He can go jerk off until you feel like it again.
p.s. If you are only 16 and married with a baby, I think you are in for a reality check. This is what it feels like to be a parent and wife. No more 4 times a day. Should have used a condom or 4.
2006-09-30 01:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you shouldn't even be having sex. But since you have a newborn and your married then you surely are mature enough to know that you need to be caring for your new baby so sex 4 times a day is totally out!!!!!!
As a matter of fact, being a new mother myself, I have to ask.......when do you think you have any time for sex????????
Four times a day was probably fun when you were sneaking around and hiding, but since that has changed, well, you know the rest.
Be patient, it will come back.
2006-09-30 01:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by midlifemommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your husband? I know what you're going through cause I to got married at 15 and had a baby at 16 and went through pretty much the same thing. Hopefully your marriage desn't turn out the way mine did(divorced at age 18).We just grew apart. we were both young,i was his first, he was alwys going out with his friends, not coming home. then when i found out he cheated on me, I left him so fast and he tried for years to get back with me. yeah right i'd never give him back the best thing he ever had. but in your situation try getting a babysitter if not overnight than for a few hours at least to give you two some time alone the way it was before the baby came.Guys hate when they feel trapped or cant be with their woman cause the baby gets all the attention now. thats just the way they are. big babies!
2006-09-30 02:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Da1uWanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big mistake to have many times sex.For many couples,after few months or years,they hate each other,they do not love each other anymore,they make sex drive a habit,and at the end,they are boring one another.Sex life require to have a good balance.Sex is like to eat.If you eat with excess the same food,after eating many times,you do not want to eat the same food anymore;does not matter if the food is good.Take a Little break,relax, and do sex with a good diet (balance),why? Because you have all your life to have sex.Good luck.
2006-09-30 01:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that with my boyfriend too!! It was all day sometimes...but after you have kids you have more important things to do besides "gettin it on"!!! If the only thing that makes him happy is you giving it to him whenever he wants ...I would ask myself is that the only reason he wants me for....if that isn't the case i would sit down and talk to him about it...you never know he may be feeling the same way you are and feels that you need it 4 times a day in order for him to keep "you" happy!
Good Luck Hun!!!
2006-09-30 01:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by ?rukkaloca24? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you've over the "4 times a day" thing, you need to work at it more. Obviously you don't have the same free time like you did before the baby. You just need to relax and sometimes "plan" your encounter and also try new positions and such. Before it was exciting, now you have to help a little to make it exciting.
Good luck!
2006-09-30 01:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, when the sex is deteriorating from a relationship, you have to bring that spark back and make it interesting. That means you and your hubby need to enter into a Lover's Lane (lingerie store) and an adult store/shop. Make it sexy again with lingerie, bring out the videos (if u don't have homemade, purchase some) and get some toys, such as flavored lubricants, edible panies, vibrators, rings, etc. Anymore questions?
2006-09-30 01:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by shortys_a_rider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next saturday night send the kids to gramma. When he gets home, dress like a hooker and drag him into the bedroom. Tease him.hug him,fondle,lick,what ever he likes. Afterwards take a shower together and fall asleep in each others arms. Make dates twice a week. Have fun and enjoy each other and the new baby too.
2006-09-30 01:29:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋