My best friend had a baby four days ago. She just went home today. My father had surgery today and had a 100% totally blocked artery fixed. (He is doing great by the way) She knew that he was having this procedure, but yet she didn't call me today to see how he was doing. Now, remember I was getting updates on her every 2 hours from her family when she had the baby. I called all of her friends and told them the details of the birth at 2am. I understand that she is busy(I have two kids of my own) but I'm really pissed that she didn't call. It only would have taken two minutes to give me a call. She is SO self absorbed right now. But if the roles were reversed, I would have called her. Am I wrong to be so mad? Or do you think she was wrong?
2006-09-29 18:24:41 · 19 answers · asked by Melissa R 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Ithink I would be pissed at her too ....you're right she's very self absorbed.....a new baby is a chore but you don't totally forget your friends when you have one............
2006-09-29 18:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking of self absorbed, (please don't think I'm scolding you,) why haven't you called her to see how she's doing , now that she's away from the ease of the hospital, letting the staff take care of things when she's too tired? (She may be wondering this as well.)
You did not call everyone in order to be "paid back" by her in this way, did you?
Of course not. Being home with a new baby, particularly if things are not going great, can be quite overwhelming.
She just got home from having a baby. You need to step back and cut her a little slack. Having just had a baby, just getting home today, I'd be surprised if she wasn't a little self absorbed.
A good course of action would be to call your friend, ask her how everything is going, and give her the update on your dad while you are on the phone with her. She is your best friend, don't let the friendship get tarnished by something as minor as the lack of a phone call.
As I said before, I don't want you to think I'm scolding you. It is very hard to convey emotion over a keyboard, but I would say these things to my own kids, or sister, or friends.
2006-09-30 01:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat94670 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa- take a minute, remember when you had a baby sleepless, tired and maybe "self absorbed"
take a moment and try to unlaod your upset feelings. then call her -not in an angry mood- and let her know whats up, maybe mention you feel a lil neglected with the new baby and let her know how your dad is doing.
we all live our lives in passing - even if best friends and connected lives. Blessed be you father is doing great- spread the news and let her know. dont sit and wait for her to call.
2006-09-30 01:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by oregonmadisons 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wayyyyyyyy...over reacting, ffs!! Her first child, plzzzz.. that girl has her hands full not to mention she's warn the hell out. Cut her some slack, for crap sakes! You have kids? Dont you remember your first days home? It's exhausting, and you CAN NOT deny it!!! And if you sit there and do deny it, your lying your *** off. Having a baby, takes every drop of energy out of you, and YOU a mother, should know this. Once she gets back on track, she'll call.
2006-09-30 01:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by debs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people prioritize things differently to Ourselves!
Don't take it too Personally!
She probably has a lot on her mind!
When the tension has calmed down a little, try talking openly with her.
Great to hear your Father's Angioplasty was a success too!
They are quite Normal procedures nowadays
2006-09-30 01:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think again, if the role is really reversed, would you have called her???
If she doesn't call, you should call her, you get updates every 2 hours from her family, I don't see the reason why she shouldn't get updates from you about your family.
2006-09-30 01:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by Angel's Smile 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% justified in being mad at her. She is lying in bed, with a baby, she could have picked up the phone and called. Make sure she knows you called all of her friends.
She is self-absorbed and rude.
2006-09-30 01:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by JDJ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's her first child then it's kind of understandable. Don't you remember when you had your first kid? I'm sure you were overwhelmed and just like in a state of shock and adoration.
You do have the right to be mad but I highly doubt she's "ignoring" you or anything.
2006-09-30 01:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can see y u would be mad becuase she is your best friend n u just was feeling like she wasn't telling u things so i see because a best friend is always suppose 2 b there and the 1 u talk 2....but yea i know she is tired so her bad..just go c the baby now..lol
2006-09-30 01:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by ciara l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you have anything to worry about. she just had a baby! that's like a miracle to her. i'm sure she would feel horrible if you mentioned how much it hurt you that she didn't call though. most likely she is not ignoring you. i'm sure she knows how important your fathers surgery was. don't get too upset over it. it will blow over.
im glad your father is doing well :)
2006-09-30 01:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋