I am catholic, and I am a teenager. I have been told through many theology classes that masturbation is a mortal sin. I have been masturbating since the age of 13. Everytime I do it, I feel extreme guilt. So how do I get rid of these urges that I strongly desire. Because if I do not get out my "hornyness", I like go mad.
2006-09-29 18:16:33 · 17 answers · asked by figg7 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ummm..i've had some great answers so far. But first of all:
1.) I do not want to get married
2.) I do not want to lose my virginity
Keep on answering, this is great.
2006-09-29 18:34:38 · update #1
A girlfriend is the last thing you want to get. Pre-marital sex is also not allowed. Get involved in some activity like sports or running or swimming. Anything to release pressure, anxiety, tension, stress and energy.
Sexual urges are not abnormal, but just because you have an urge doesn't mean you should act on it. Some people have urges to kill. Would you counsel them to do so?
You don't pick your religion based on how much freedom you get to do whatever the heck you want. Stick with Catholicism and do what I suggested. It'll get easier and it won't be that long before you get married, hopefully to a wonderful Catholic girl who has also abstained from sex.
2006-09-29 18:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If you haven't already you will have "wet dreams" where you will climax and discharge semen. It is like the real thing. I used to love these dreams. They happened for me about every two weeks.
I think just about everybody masturbates, it would be the odd one who does not. At your age, women will drive you crazy and that is the way it will pretty much be the next 40 years of your life. Women are just as horny as you are.
Instead of masturbating, I would seek out a willing curiosity seeker and give her permission to touch you wherever she wants.
But never, never brag to your friends about it. It is the greatest secret you must keep, just between you and her. If you talk about her your name will be **** for the foreseeable future.
Have fun, think big, but start out slow, more talking than doing. Do not allow one sperm to enter her vagina. This will be the biggest mistake of your entire life and you will pay for it dearly. You would be better off if your were sentenced to murder.
2006-09-30 01:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Radioactive1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sin. There are a lot of things in the Catholic church that are antiquated, but I still try to follow the best I can. You have to use common sense and mine tells me that it's normal and healthy to "give yourself a hand".
Yeah, I'm a girl, but so what? Makes sense doesn't it?
2006-09-30 01:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.
1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?
2. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?
3. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?
4. Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?
5. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?
6. Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?
7. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?
8. Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?
9. Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?
10. Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?
11. Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?
12. Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?
If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.
2006-09-30 02:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you choose your religion, or did your paretns choose it for you? I would not choose to follow any religion that would make me feel bad? Just because there are Catholics all over the planet, doesn't mean that they are on the right track.
Pagan practices are greatly misunderstood. They don't practice evil. How many times have you heard on the news that another Catholic Priest has molested another young child. Now, how many times have you heard on the news that a Pagan Priest has molested another young child?? Hmmm?
Stop feeling guilty. Masturbate often, and feel great about it. Heck, see how long you can do it, and how many times in a day you can get off. Later in life, there will be someone you are with that will be grateful that you played with yourself all those years, and can get yourself up over, and over, and over, and over.....Oooh, la la.
2006-09-30 01:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Xady 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't get rid of the urges. They're natural and perfectly normal. Instead, find a less antiquated belief system...one that understands that sexual urges--which are afterall why we're all around--are not abnormal.
2006-09-30 01:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by justamanandagorilla 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry. But 2.) sounds very sick to me. Why don't You want to get rid of Your virginity!!! That's the worst a girl needs. Trust me. If You cannot stop masturbating, hurt Yourself, until You lose it.
"Virginity" is a stigma from the Old Ages, but now it is 2006 !!!
Wake up, Baby and enjoy Your life. There is nothing wrong with having s e x — or "making love" to a good strong man.
2006-09-30 06:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
What the heck go masturbate over and over again. No one is
watching, so who to tell you it's a sin. What are you going to do go to confession and confess your sins. Would you rather have blue balls. Relief your self. And pray for your sins my son. Say Hail Mary 10 times and jump for joy.
2006-09-30 01:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make a confession. Then another. And so on.
Not advisable to marry in teenage no matter whatever religious dictates.
2006-09-30 01:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Girlfriend or you are screwed and you will feel guilty by believing in things that fictional characters have told you are wrong.
God and Jesus are simply ficticious characters, there is no proof they ever existed and then they tell all different religions what is right and wrong, then everything is different for each religion, what is right in one religion is wrong in another?
Give me a break and join the real world.
2006-09-30 01:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by froggy010101 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋