My husband and I have been together for 12 yrs now. We both had a child when we met. Our children are only a few months apart in age. With our children going on 16 we have been discussing driving. He told one of our sons that he could not have a car until he acted more responsible. his grades are good but he has trouble shutting his mouth sometimes so I agreed to this thinking it would help him learn. But tonight he told our other child who is getting into mischief and making low grades he wants to buy him a car so he can start behaving. I was appalled at this because i had already told my ex that we wanted to wait on buying my son the car. I am not sure how to handle this.
2006-09-29 17:55:24 · 3 answers · asked by ange 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're considered "mom" to both these boys right? And mom always gets the last word lol. Tell your husband that both boys need to be treated fairly if they're both doing poorly. Remember - good grades means a discount on their car insurance...you could use the excuse of holding them up to the standards of your companies "good grade discount." It would be a fair way to let the boys get a car based on earning it. You definitely need to discuss this with your husband...and be as fair as possible.
2006-09-30 18:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~Lacey~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simply, lousy grades and/or lousy behavior should not be rewarded. That's definitely 'bass ackwards'. What ever happened to 'earning' something which takes some effort on the child's part?
2006-09-30 01:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blended families are tough. The best thing to do is to treat all the kids equally, then there's no squabble. I don't have to ask which son is your hubby's. Fair is fair!
2006-09-30 01:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋