What's wrong with being serious all the time?

Question

Most people like to have fun by having fun, goofing off, and cracking jokes a majority of the time.

I am different. I have the most fun by being serious, having intellectual conversations, and keeping it real. I'd rather sit down and discuss philosophy or life in general, than listen to a stand up routine.

If you are the joke cracking, carefree, goof around type, I'm not going to condescend you for it. I might not be able to relate to you, or enjoy what you're doing, but at least I will let you be who you are.

Why is it then that people cannot treat me the same way I would treat them? People are always getting on my case telling me I need to lighten the **** up and trying to change who I am. WTF? What's so terrible about being sincere? Why can't people let me be me?

If I want to laugh, I will watch a funny movie or a funny tv show, and I do so often.

If am spending time with another person, I want to converse!

I love having my cats make me laugh everyday.

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with being serious all the time. You should just be you. When I'm me, most people appreciate me for it, but there are those who object, ridicule or avoid me. It's the same for all of us. There are people out there who would have fun having a serious conversation with you. Just don't expect any close, heart-to-heart type friends. The bonds that create friendship need to be strong enough to give each other what they need; most people need their friends to be able to adapt, to a greater or lesser degree, to the situation. Someone who is always cracking jokes and can't be serious will not be a desirable friend since sometimes life is too hard and we need someone who can admit that, bear it with us, and empathize with us. Likewise, someone who is always serious and cannot outwardly convey joy will not be a desirable friend since sometimes life is too fun and we need someone who can admit that, share ti with us, and empathize with us. I have a lot of serious friends, but even though philosophy and theology are more fun than video games and shopping malls, they still can crack up at the ironies around every corner of the universe.

Enjoy!!

Answer 2

Basically, having fun is the amount of time you spend doing things that are light-hearted. It's the amount of time you dedicate to whatever you consider to be fun: working on hobbies; games; sexual activity; dancing; going to the theater or movies; watching television; reading; surfing the internet; spending time with friends; traveling; having meaningful conversations and playing sports. U see u don't have to be goofing around to have fun, just do the thing that makes u feel best, like ur usual hobbies. Cracking jokes are fun for some people but for others it's not. I never get a joke cos i over analyse it so instead of watching a stand up routine i prefer a good book lol...

Answer 3

I can let you be. I'm like you. that doesn't mean I don't like laughing at all, but I'm serious too most of the time.

you talk about people. there's people and people. maybe change your surroundings, or let it be like it is. ----you never act alone----, you know...better get used to "people". what I wanna say is that one good friend is enough to make it go. I see it that way.

PS: I also could imagine that the perception you have now about yourself can change. I remember having had a time where I thought that I am serious all the time. Somehow my perception has changed. I still think I am being serious, but I dont see it as a problem in any way anymore.

"Because change happens", and because I have realized I am not alone. The people that surround me are an important part of my life...when I see how they are - why be serious with THEM? Why put so much weight on things ? Whatever, difficult to express myself. It goes away with age; the problem about it.

BTW: serious jokes still are the best. stay like you are.
and enjoy your life with whatever comes your way. live. learn. its also the diversity that makes this life special. and do what you can. there's nothing more you can do.

I hope this was helpful.

Answer 4

Dear friend,

Its good to be serious.
But one should be serious about the life , the decisions, efforts for making self and others life significant.
Who says that we can make our life significant only by behaveing serious? Not at all.

See. life is very short . think of the universe, the infinite nature and compare yourself with natural powers, forces. How tiny we are.

I believe in -
" Dont go the way life takes you but take the life the way you go"

I am a fun loving guy, I keep smiling and make the surrounding also fresh, pleasent , I have developed a sort of magnetic personality. no worries. This does not mean that I dont have problems But the way I look at the problems is differenty.I look at them as a challenge , hurdles as in running race in olympics. Thats all. No problem can depress me or divert me from the goals I have set. Let whatsoever happen.

So its not that I can persue my goals just by behaving serious. Please understand the difference between
` Behaveing serious AND Becoming serious ( Deciding to be serious about achieving your goals ).'

Read my profile in yahoo answer. I am still jolly, sincere, wothout tension yet serious. Its all your attitude that build your personality and results.
So change your thoughts and it will change your world. Have positive attitude . Its the basic secret of goting from POT to TOP.

Be a true friend.
Have wonderful life.
Raj.

Answer 5

Sweetie, there's not a thing wrong with being serious, just as being silly isn't a sin. There's a time and a place for everything, you know. Maybe you should simply cultivate friendships that are more in your league, but when you feel like having a good, deep laugh, take a walk on the other side. There's room for everyone in this ol' world - it's just that there's a lot of people out there who haven't figured that out.

Answer 6

Nothing at all. A healthy person can be eitherof the two you describe, no? Experiences play a role as well as enviornment in the molding of our personalities, and they assure we are all unique. We can be a little of both as well, and can find others like ourselves to befriend. People are always finding fault with those who they regard as different than themselves, which is the primary reason for these world conflicts we suffer, agree? Good ques. ( my source is experience, my brother, who I love, was born wearing a three piece suit and I was born laughing. ) We found a way to still enjoy each other's company. -- Rat

Answer 7

You sound a lot like me! I like talking about more serious things rather than small, random things just to get a laugh. We are introverts and there is nothing wrong with that. You might think that talking about life is an important and more meaningful conversation but others might think the same for clothes and movie stars. My friends are mostly extroverted as well but I really do need them to keep me updated about things I would not usually look into. I need them to help me stop thinking so much and just relax and play around and talk about 'unimportant' stuff. This does not mean that I have to completely change myself to enjoy my own life. I might have to adapt myself when I am with them, but that happens to everybody. If we don't put an effort into our friendships, they will fall apart.

And talking about the need to lighten the **** up, I get that sometimes too. It's just a way of getting you to stop holing yourself in your own world and interact more with others. You might think that you are already interacting with others by talking with them, but that is only on the intellectual level. To get to know others, you have to 'do' things together. You have to go out and interact if you want to get to know the people you consider your friends. It's not so much about sincerity, though you certainly have to be sincere to your friends, and changing yourself, but more about understanding each other. You are not the only one putting an effort to befriend them; they are also putting an effort to befriend you. If they weren't, they would not even invite you to hang out with them; they would just ignore you instead. It's like learning another language to converse with other people. You both have to learn each other's language to understand each other better.

I'm only basing all these on my own experiences so they might not be exactly what you are looking for. I hope you will not be too harsh on your friends! You can try telling them about how you feel if you think they are being too harsh on you. Just try to compromise.

Answer 8

its supposedly good for you to have a laugh everyday, that opens up the blood flow. I can't say I am too different, I thoroughly enjoy a serious conversation, but that doesn't mean I can't have a good laugh goofing off and what not. Its just that our personailty can be conflicting.

Answer 9

There is a time for both my friend. Although most people should try to have more intellect you need to loosen up sometimes. It makes life more fun. I know plenty of people like you but they still love a good joke. But there is nothing wrong with being you. Don't worry what others think. And get into a collage there i met plenty of people like you.

Answer 10

There's nothing wrong with it but you will be serious alone.
Everyone needs a break from the stress of reality. Comedy and humor and acting silly is healthy. There's a time and place for everything. You don't go to the circus and be serious.
Have you ever gone to a fair, to the beach, to a movie, played in the rain?
You miss a lot of life with constant seriousness. And you will probably have a stress induced heart attack at a young age.
Good luck.