I'm a single parent at 22 , not by my choice . My boyfriend got deported .There isn't anything I can do to bring him back. He caused a lot of problems with my family and friends. They don't come around or when they do they criticize me. I have friends that go out and drink and party and they act like I still can , but I can't I have NO one to watch my son . I know my mom won't. I have $$$$ but no job . I sit here ALL day . I have NO motivation . I find myself jealous of my friends who can still go out . I have no health insurance , I can't see a mental health professional . What can I do ?
2006-09-29 17:43:08 · 9 answers · asked by primamaria04 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Is there any way that you could take you child and go to him ?
If you have the extra cash available why not place your son in a daycare while you look into either moving your little family back together OR back to school for something that you might enjoy ...
don't be jealous of your friends dear you made the decision to be a parent by not taking proper precautions ....drinking and partying is over rated anyways ... the smile on a sleepy babies face worth far more then a night on the town
I dont feel like you need mental health but you sure do need someone to talk with who is not connected to your family ...
GoodLuck with bringing it all together
2006-09-29 19:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt really sound like you need mental health help. It sounds like you need some new friends. Having kids puts you in a different place from where your friends are at. What I would reccomend is take your child to a park or playground. You can meet other parents there and most likely other single moms. You need to set up a social network of likeminded people. Im not saying you need to get rid of your old friends, its just that they have different priorities than you.
Another thing that you can do is see if there are playgroups for children in your area and join up with one, once again you will meet other parents and have opportunities to make new friends.
2006-09-29 17:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im also 22 and lonely by choice. I have no job nor no money. Instead of moving out of my parents house, they moved out and left me here. Im late on my taxes. I have a car title in my name but dont know where the car is. I have 2000 in hospital bills. I sit here all day cause ive tried getting a job but nobody will hire me. So i play video games for about 10 hours a day and watch my life rot away while bitchin at the computer for lagging. I WATCH HGTV FOR ENTERTAINMENT!!!!! If thats not bad, i don't know what is.
2006-09-29 17:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by conap31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is there !
What else does a person need to cheer up. A good reason to live for ! No need to pass on this depression to the child (for no fault). No motivation is needed. Being alone is not loneliness. People feel very lonely even with lots of people around them all the time !
2006-09-29 20:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have $$$$, but have no way of hiring a baby sitter, or putting your kid into daycare? I am sure daycare or babysitters aren't THAT expensive. You NEED a job, to take care of your son! You also need some sort of sanity time for yourself, to go out with friends, to act like a normal person. It's almost like you are in jail. You can't put yourself under arrest everday of your life, you'll go stir crazy!! You MUST get some daycare, for your sanity, and more importantly, YOUR SON!! good luck!
2006-09-29 17:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by snafu1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 15 yet i understand lots whilst it incorporates relation ships and lonliness. in fact friends are friends yet you sense you like some thing extra maximum appropriate? nicely then only "shine" be your self and finally an stunning lady will come around. females like the shy component too,yet its stable to get somewhat social each and every each and every so generally. low self-nicely worth demands activites occupy it sluggish with activites and hobbys so which you forget approximately approximately your lonliness ultimately who is conscious possibly you will locate that distinctive some one mutually as doing some component you adore.
2016-10-18 05:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't necessarily say you have no motivation when you are obviously seeking for answers.Don't let them get you down!
My only advice?: Pray to God! :D
2006-09-29 17:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this time to bond with you child. he/she is the silver lining of your cloud now and always will be.
2006-09-29 17:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by iamtired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but, if you have $$$$, you can find somebody to look after your son????
2006-09-29 17:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋