Remember about 6yrs ago... I knew a girl from website and we started meeting up and chat. (She's a Malay girl) We went to bed one day and had alot of sex that night. Since then, we often meet up just for sex. But I began to fell in love with her, and she did love me too. We even intend to get married and I falls out with my mother too cause she can't accept a Malay as her daughter-in-law. Anyway, the preparation went on and 2 weeks before our marriage day, I found out she was already engaged at that moment.... She had secretly engaged with another guy without letting me and even her parents knew. I was so sad and broke up with her. We did not contact each other since then. But since then, i still do misses her alot and often think of going back to her which is not possible. Am I stupid to do that..? And is she worth of after she treated me like that...?
2006-09-29 17:25:32 · 10 answers · asked by porridge0000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Move on...
2006-09-29 17:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
logically, yes you are stupid to miss her and to think of going back to her. emotionally, no you are not stupid because love is blind and there's no clever or stupid.
You miss her and think of going back to her=You love her=She is a person worth your love even if she treated you badly because YOU LOVE HER.
If you can, give her a call to ask her why is she secretly engaged with another guy in the first place.
1) If she gives you an answer, be grateful that at least you knew why. Many people die in battlefields without knowing why.
2) If she does not, DON'T PESTER FOR HER ANSWER. She has her own reasons. Devote time to doing things you really love and let this matter off.
3) If you can't give her a call, devote time to doing things you really love and let this matter off.
It will be painful at first but time flies and HEALS many a times. The future gives you better things because YOU LOOK FORWARD TO IT.
2006-09-30 07:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by man goat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship was SEX and that's it. She was never engaged to someone else in the first place...sorry..she said that to get out of marrying you, that is why her parents had no knowledge of it either. There is more to relationships than just the physical, and you will know when the right one comes along.
2006-09-30 00:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by pazd7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't give her another thought..she would just use you again..
i think it is so sad that many people play with others emotions without giving it a second thought....
i had a friend that used people all the time...then when the tables are turned and she is getting used--she wants to cry about it..i find it hard to feel bad for these kind of people..
anyway i suggest you move on with your life.. find someone that will be trustworthy..good luck
2006-09-30 00:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and learn. The way to describe that girl, and many others, is "fickle." She didn't know what she wanted so she went all over the place, used people, lied, and took what she could get. Whatever she felt, it wasn't love. You want to find a girl who knows what she wants and is going for it, and wants you to join her in pursuing your dreams together.
2006-09-30 00:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so very hard to let go when you love someone so much but you will only have heartache and I don't think she really loves you or she wouldn't have done what she did.
I feel so sorry for you, for the pain you are suffering but you will heal in time.
2006-09-30 01:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she was confused and keeping a few pretty big secrets from you. Small secrets, no big deal - everyone's got them. Big secret - how much do you really know about her? It's a deal breaker. Move on to someone who's going to be satisfied with you - alone.
2006-09-30 00:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
H*ll NO she's not worth it! move on, you don't need someone like that.
2006-09-30 00:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by Kandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to resurrect what you had, then you're stupid.
Move on.
2006-09-30 00:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by da_lizard_of_ozz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no she's a ****
2006-09-30 00:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋