ever since she had a baby which is like not even 2 months she never calls me but she has time to get on the computer and talk to me and her other friends but she never calls me like a true friend true friends call each other and she wants to hang out tomorrow and like she never calls me and what should i do and if u think i shouldn't hang out with her what should i say to her
2006-09-29 17:04:10 · 12 answers · asked by Pooh Bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she still lives with her parents and her parents are helping her with the baby im here for her but when i need her shes never here for me she always writes me when she wants to hang out or something or when she needs a friend but shes always on the internet but people say when shes to busy to talk on the phone bc she has a baby but no she can go on the internet and she use to have a fit about me not calling her but now i do bc i really need her by my side im not selfish
2006-09-29 17:19:32 · update #1
I think Whiyney needs to find a new friend...Short answer you are selfish....
2006-09-29 17:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should be understanding and be there for her. Having a kid is not a easy thing and its a lot of responsibilty. She probrally hasnt called you because she is super busy with her new baby. And maybe the only way she could talk is online because its easier. There could be a million reasons, but i dont think you should stop hanging out with her because of that. Why dont you give her a call?? or go pass by and see if she needs help. If you want a friend you need to be a friend first. So dont give up on her and be there for her!
2006-09-30 00:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by laural8477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you dont have a kid? Give her a break she just had a baby. People go thru a lot after having a baby, not to mention its hard. Your life changes completely once you have a baby. Im sure she hasnt had time to call because she's been busy taking care of the new life she just brought into the world. Be a good friend, not a jerk.
2006-09-30 00:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why not tell her to call you. You call her this time and say that you think she should call you a bit more often and wait until she calls next time. She is probaly busy looking after her new child which sounds like it was an accident and she is very young. If she doesn't call you back, steal her baby like on home and away. Give it back 12 hours later and she will never forget to call you again. It will scare her so much she will think about what she has done.
2006-09-30 00:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has a kid... thats not easy, its tough!!! She'll need all the friends and help she can get! So what if she hasnt called. Step up to the plate, and call her then. Friends..distant or not..YOUR still friends. And if she wants to go out, and has the opportunity to do so..GO OUT!! She probably needs a break. Help the girl out, and show her a good time. **She has a child NOT a disease!!
2006-09-30 00:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by debs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know when I had my kid that she would wake up when i talked, so your friends kid could just be a light sleeper and wake up when she gets on the phone. Ask her how her kid is, and see where the conversation goes.
Being a mom myself, I know that when I get to hang out with friends I cherish the time.
2006-09-30 00:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say "Anything I can help you do? Do you need a break from the baby?" Stop being so selfish, the girl just had a child! Get over there and help her out. Sheesh.
2006-09-30 00:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time learning how to write in English for one thing. That was all one sentence. If she has a baby, she is too busy to be on the phone with you.
2006-09-30 00:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you obviously have never had a child. When we women have children, especially our first child. we devote all our time to the child, especially in the first several months. Not only is this the bonding stage and crucial for development of both the child's physical well being, but also the child's emotional wellbeing. It is also crucial for the infant to bond with his/her parents. The first few months are also difficult as well as challenging due to the lack of sleep new parents receive. Infants sleep an average of two hours at a time, wake up need feeding and changing and to interact with the parents and other family members, goes back to sleep for another two hours then wakes up and does it all over again. This is exhausting for a new mother never getting a full nights sleep.
Your friend has been both a good mother to her child AND a good friend by keeping in contact via computer when she has a few moments to spare. This new job of hers is a full time job and intensely critical. She has shown her committment to you by keeping in contact. That she has kept in contact at all these first tow months shows exactly how deeply she values you. When I had my first child I didn't come up for air for the first two years! lol
Be the good friend you expect her to be and try to understand how her committments have changed, of course the child comes first, but she has still kept in contact with you none the less. She needds her friends in order to stay healthy emotionally and to learn to create a balance in life now she is a mother.
By all means hang out with her and show her some support and love. If you care about her you will attempt to understand how life has changed drastically for her and be proud she is a good mom and still is able to keep up with her friends the best she is able. I find her an amazing young woman and it would be a shame for you to walk out on your friendship with her due to her becoming a mother and rightfully putting her child before hanging out with friends. You should be proud of her not thinking she has stopped being your friend.
She and you will be friends for years to come if you just try to think of how life is so different for her now, be supportive and not over sensitive about how much less time she has now she is a mother of an infant. I think she is awesome to be able to keep in touch as she has! Wow! She is great!! You would be foolish to dump her over this.
2006-09-30 00:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She talks to you on the computer that is talking to you. She is busy with the baby.
You are acting like a jealous child. Get over her having as baby.
2006-09-30 00:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋