What do you do when you when you have a father in law who emasculates you?

Question

He disrespects me as much as my wife does. I am no deadbeat loser guy either.

So my wife does not communicate and runs away from problems. She really disrespected me and my family by packing up her stuff and leaving. She said she is not happy living at home--I do live in an extended family situation, but my family is real cool. She basically did not want to live with the fam. Which is cool, but the way she disrespected me and the family was very uncalled for. She bounced on me, and her father without hearing my side of the story, completely emasculated me, and told her not to come back to me. She feeds him terrible lies and he simply has disrespected me numerous times. She is better off being married to him. I cannot believe this crap is happening to me. I feel that I am married to a child.

Answer 1

From the text of your question, i would say use lots of lube!!

Answer 2

Who cares about the F.I.L
If you don't have an ally in your wife
then you don't have a partner in life.
She's effectively made her decision, so now you have to decide, are you going to be able to live with such a situation or not.
She may have run to daddy because she is feeling outnumbered in the current living situation. After all, if you & your wife are arguing within earshot of the rest of the extended family, & they get involved, just who's side are they going to take 99.9% of the time anyway?
Is it possible she got fed up with being outgunned in battle & finally went seeking an ally?
The thing is, you two need to work out your differences TOGETHER. Not with her family or yours involved.
Offer to go to a marriage councellor, where you will have a mediator who is unbiased & will help you work out your issues together without one or the other feeling like they're being trampled on.

Answer 3

What is wrong with people? I tell you, people are selfish, self centered, and ignorant. My husband treats me like crap, and so does my mother in law. I have done nothing to either of them, and I have tried to be so kind. I am no deadbeat either. For the last past year, I have supported my husband, cause he had no job. He didn't try to get one either. All I can say, is don't let them know that they get to you. Decide if you really want to be in the marriage if she is treating you like crap, and disrespecting you. Maybe when you show her you have had enough, she will change her tune. Your wife needs to put boundaries up with her parents, otherwise they will alway meddle in your lives together. She needs to realize she is married and you are her husband. She is at fault for not setting those boundaries with them, and if there are no limits a marriage is doomed to fail. Her father is always going to be her father, but she needs to decide if you are important enough along with the marriage to step up and be a women. She can always be in her fathers life, but she doesn't need to rely on him and tell him everything, when she has you. To many spoiled little babies in this world. You don't need to talk to her father if you don't want. If you do, keep it short and sweet, and he will get the message from you. The rest is up to her, she needs to put her foot down.

Answer 4

An example of this disrespect would be nice to know so a answer could be given.

Respect is earned, not given. Now I am not saying you aren't being disrespected, but your actions could be earning you lack of respect. If that is the case then the disrespect is in your mind and not others.

Answer 5

You can not blame a woman for not wanting to live with more then her husband and kids i couldn't live with my husbands family not that i do not like them just when you marry its time to fly out of the nest.. Try moving out see if your wife comes home your not being very RESPECTFUL to her by not considering how she felt about living with family

Answer 6

If your wife is also disrespecting you...............why you still there?
The father in-law needs to stay out of your life. It's up to you to make it happen!!