well i am marry and have 2 kids a boy and girl and he does not help me at all and i have been thinking about leaveing him cause
he treats me very bad he has fit me many times and i dont know
how can i get a job and a place where i can live.
2006-09-29 16:45:12 · 16 answers · asked by Lucero B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-09-29 17:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to start looking for a job...maybe you can hold off until you get a job and can get your own place. If you need to leave now, you might want to ask you parents, other relatives or a friend who can let you stay with them until you get on your feet. If that's the case, get a job and save as much as you can as fast as you can. Try to keep your monthly costs down so you can move into your place quickly (things will be more normal that way and you'll be more comfortable). Also, set up your own bank account seperate from your husbands so you can start putting money away. Try careerbuilder.com or the newspaper or asking friends about jobs.
Until you can do this, my best advice is just try to keep the peace in the house as much as you can, so you won't get into a fight.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 17:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by ~Lacey~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He's abusing you....and that's enough said!!!
Go to a shelter. They have programs and sometimes work placement to help you. Plus they can find you a place to live...and help with the kids as well.
Don't keep yourself in a dangerous situation....for yourself or your children. Don't let them be exposed to that kind of environment.
The shelter can help you..and refer you to places that can help you as well. For a place to stay, job, income, assistance...etc.
Don't think "What if"....what if it comes down to something bad happening because you didn't make a move to get out.
Good Luck!
2006-09-29 16:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can find a domestic abuse support group in your area by looking at the blue pages or yellow pages. They will help you if you get ready when you decide to leave your husband. They will put you and your kids in a secluded shelter where he can't find you until you're ready to confront him. They will provide for necessities and help your kids adjust. They will even find you a job. Also, you might want to get a restraining order against him.
2006-09-29 16:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Thot77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety....................go to your local social services office. While there ask for your local houseing assistance office and get on their list for rentals.
Also have social services get ahold of the Domestic Violence near you, and take you and the kids to a safe place.
After doing that, buy a newspaper, or go straight to the employment office.
IF you leaving is hard to do right now, and you have bruises on you right now, tsake your kids to the local police and have him arrested and get a restaining order and stay oin your place for now while he sits in jail. It will give you time to figure out the right places to go and get help.
Good Luck!!
2006-09-29 16:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the womens crisis center let them know.apply for section 8 they will rush the process if you are working with the crisis center.but first get a job if you dont have one.you will need money.if its really bad and you cant wait go to a shelter.call the police the next time if you havnt already,its easier when the abuse is documented.good luck god bless.
2006-09-29 16:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by yubuggin? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if there is a place in the city you live in that helps women and children get out of a violent environment.Usually Catholic charities or some other domestic violence program,
2006-09-29 16:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lori26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your nearest domestic violence shelter they will hep you get out and help you get set up on your own, they will also provide you will help getting a protection order and a divorce. don't hesitate just do it !! I have been in your shoes it wont get any better only worse.
Good luck feel free to email me when you are safe
StormyjoeM@yahoo.com
2006-09-29 17:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE IN A ABUSIVE MARRIAGE THEN YOU NEED TO LEAVE THERE ARE RESOURCES OUT THERE FOR WOMEN LIKE YOU. MAKE A BETTER LIFE FOR YOUR KIDS LEAVE HIS SORRY BEHIND JOBS ARE EVERY WHERE IN YOUR TOWN WHERE YOU LIVE TRY SOME WOMEN'S SHELTERS THAT CAN HELP YOU. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU AN YOUR KIDS
2006-09-29 16:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a local job center where you can get information on who's hiring, and they also offer free healthcare and childcare, and housing listings for people in a bad situation, if you qualify so you can get yourself on your feet.
2006-09-29 16:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋