i don't know how to take her some times and yes after 13 years of being with her i did love her..but she and i got deviorced around ten years ago and off and on she has asked me for a one night stand and i always said no ....that i liked myself better then that ..but she always says things to make me fell bad cause i wont sleep with her ...she says we can keep it between use and no one will know ,but i would and i really want more out of life but she trys so hard should i sleep with her or not??
2006-09-29 16:34:34 · 38 answers · asked by little_man432 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you know right from wrong, so no one can answer that for you but you! ASK YOURSELF THIS
1. Do you respect yourself?
2. Do you respect her and her new husband?
3. If your daughter came to you with the same question what would you tell her?
4. What would GOD do?
When you get done answering these you will have your answer.
2006-09-29 17:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by SANCY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed you should! I mean how else is the new husband going to forced to ask if he should stay married to your ex-wife, but this is of course after he catches you sleeping with his wife. Man your life will be wild at that point.
Wrong question man. Why do you even allow your ex wife to influence you at all. The only reason I can think of is that you have a very difficult time finding and maintaining relationships. That is a common problem in America today.
Check out some professional counseling before your situation suddenly gets far worse. And, don't tell her it is over between you two because then she will bug you twice as much.
Just don't be their when when she needs you. Maybe she will see the light and ask you to remarry her, after she has broken it off with her current husband.
Also, she has some problems aside from needing you physically and occasionally. Tell her to get some counseling also. Maybe together you can find reasons to really get back together.
Good luck!
2006-09-29 16:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you shouldn't. All women know how to wrap a man around their finger and manipulate him into doing what she wants him to do. In your case, it's having sex with her. She just wants to get what she wants. Maybe she was more sexually satisfied with you when you were married, than she is now with her current husband. But it doesn't mean that she still loves you. If she did, she'd respect your correct decision to refuse sleeping with her!
Don't let her wrap you around her finger any longer. Just tell her that if she's capable of doing that to her husband-cheating on him- well, you and her are not alike because you are not capable of doing that to your girlfriend/ wife (are you married to someone else now? If not, tell her you have a girlfriend).
2006-09-29 16:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's her way of feeling she has some control over you still and she feels as long as you two are having sex you won't go looking for it else where if I were you I'd stop this I know it won't be hard but it's for the best you need to move on with your own life and maybe it's best if you two don't talk anymore. Atleast tell you've got your own stuff set. Good Luck!!
2006-09-29 16:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by xxxlostsocalgirlxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't sleep with her. You need to get her out of your life so you can have a better life. I don't know if you have children together because it could add difficulties, but having a relative help you with getting the children for visitation would help. You obviously want better in life for yourself so you need to find a woman who will appreciate you.
2006-09-29 16:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by wintersimjp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, NO! Obviously she thinks of only herself and what she wants out of life. If you sleep with her you're not only taking a chance of hurting her husband but you're degrading yourself, and for what? It doesn't sound like she would be too put out if she slept with you and her husband found out. But if you do still love her, doesn't it hurt to consider how many times she probably cheated on you? Be a real man, and just say NO!
2006-09-29 16:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah man that aint nothin but trouble stay away from temptation, you are in the right state of mind, good question. Get married first to her, she will get you brought into the ground bro, she should not be wanting to fuC* you if she is married, im telling you you should slap her in the face, what a skrewed up lady.
2006-09-30 03:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't!
She didn't want you in the forst place (for life)? What makes you good enough now? She didn't want you as a husband but, know you're good as a lover?
Women like these will be the first to blow you off and say "he slept with me and ruin your whole (actual) life!
She just uses people and dump them at her will....
Dump her now! she just wants to see you in trouble! If sh has nothing to loose, that doesn't mean you do!
2006-09-29 16:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by etherberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no don't sleep with her, if you do you are only asking for trouble. She had you before and she should have thought about what she wouldn't have before the divorce. She needs some serios counseling. Maybe her new husband needs some too
2006-09-29 20:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,keep away from her,you are doing ok.Don't give in or do anything that you would regret afterwards-this is dangerous sh1t here,do YOU know what her motive is for trying to get you to sleep with her?Don't do it man,you are better than that.
2006-09-30 02:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋