My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost two years and EVERYONE around me has gotten pregnant. 7 people in 20 months! I just found out that my sister in law is pregnant and she got married sunday. Sunday! I can't be happen because I am so sad. And angry. Why can't I be happy for others? I am usually a really nice person. Please tell me I am not alone. Don't be mean, i feel bad enough.
2006-09-29 16:26:26 · 11 answers · asked by sparklepup 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I know how you feel, I have been in the same boat with you. I had a friend who wasn't even trying, and she got pregnant, then my husbands cousin got pg 2 mos later. Then I heard one of my cousins was pg. Then another lady I know got pg, I just chit chat with her occasionally, but I knew her too. Then where I work every other lady comes in and is pg, I just don't know how much more I can take, so I know what you mean. And when our cousins had their babies, I was so hurt cause that wasn't me. I would stay up late and cry in the middle of the night after my husband would go to bed, so he wouldn't hear me, cause I needed to get it out of my system. So I have an idea of what your going through too. Anyway its normal to feel this way, I think the main reason why we feel that way is because we have been working so hard for it to happen and they just look at each other and they get pg. It is hard to see that go on. But remember when you do get pg and have a baby, there will be someone else to feel that way toward you, when you have that big smile on your face, and showing off your baby to everyone. And besides you don't know what that women has or is going through, or how long she has been trying either, So keep that in mind when you get pg.
Maybe she is hurting and your just happy to be a MOM. Good luck to you and everyone out there trying to get PG. The Lord will bless us soon.
2006-09-29 17:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by babylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I feel the same way! My husband and I have been trying for 2 years and well no luck yet, but my best friend of 10 years found out shes pregnant and Im not as happy for her as I should be! Its just not fair sometimes! My friend isn't even married and well we won't get into that cuz its a long story but to make it short her boyfriend who is going to be the father just had a baby with another woman back in July! Yeah its crazy I know! You are not alone honey~ your time will come! If you want to talk just let me know! Good Luck & LOTS OF BABYDUST!
2006-09-29 16:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by brittanyj05cm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a break.The one thing you want the most in the world seams out of reach to you and ever body around you seams to get it effortlessly. Go have a good cry,a cup of tea,a hot bath,a long walk where you can just let go and scream if you have to! What ever comforts you. Praying helps me. You are not alone,there are many women who either can't get pregnant ,or worse get pregnant and miscarry. Ask your ob/gyn if there is a support group for people who are in your situation,maybe talking with other people in your situation will help you at least not feel so alone.
2006-09-29 16:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by blondecarpenter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not horrible. My fiancee and I want to start trying to conceive, but we want to wait until we are married. I am ready to have a baby now, but the timing is not right. Everyone around me is having babies...I know about 7 women also that are pregnant right now. It upsets me to think I might be jealous, but it makes me mad that they are all having kids and are in worse situations than I am.
I don't know if it is normal to feel that way, but I sure feel the same way you do. I don't even know if I can have children either. My doctor told me I could have PCOS but did not do any tests to see, but said if I did it would be hard for me to conceive. If you want to you can email me and we can chat. Maybe it will make us both feel better.
2006-09-29 16:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by moonstar925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustrations and you are not a bad person for not being able to be happy for others. It's a normal reaction to what you are going through. Keep your head up and believe that it's possible. Keep your outlook positive no matter how down you may feel. It's important not to make your husband feel bad either. You are in this together.. when it happens (and it will) it'll be the greatest moment of your lives!
2006-09-29 16:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mel and Ed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel! My husband and I are also TTC and my sister in law just had her 3rd!! We are the same age, and she is one of them people who take adv. of "the system".. It always seems like the most loving able people are the ones who can't conceive!! Dont worry and just relax, you are not horrible, and both you and I will have beautiful babies, AFTER all them other people, and we will get all the attention!! Good Luck!
2006-09-29 17:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. Not everyone can have children, not trying to be mean, just stating a fact. It is normal for you to be upset, sad, angry. You are definitely not alone. Try to concentrate on your relationship with your mate because, utimately, that is themost important relationship you will ever have.
2006-09-29 16:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Happy for your sister. Go to the doctor and see if there's anything blocking your eggs and see is anything wrong with your husband. I saw this on tv where you and your husband could go to the doctor. and they take your husband sperm and they put it in you for it could go in your eggs. be patient with every thing. Good Luck with your sister baby.
2006-09-29 16:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by liltweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings of resentment are understandable for someone in your situation. Logically, you realize however, that whether anyone else is pregnant or not has nothing to do with you and your husband. Raise your vibrations and get ready to welcome a new life..
2006-09-29 16:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. It happens...would this be your first? I know I get a bit jealous of my friends/family having babies since I don't have any yet. But think of it this way, one day you'll have yours and they'll be done...then it'll be your time to enjoy it!
2006-09-29 16:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ ms. @ ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋