you can't forgive yourself for? When I was a kid, I was treated very poorly and once I took it out on my sweet wonderful dog. I got really angry at him for tearring up the house cuz I knew that I was in big trouble and I yelled at him and kicked him and I can notbelieve I did it. I can still see his innocent eyes looking back at me...Of everything in my very crazy life this is the thing that haunts me. It was 24 yrs ago, but I still feel so sad about it. He was such a good dog, he adored me, and I don't know how to make piece with what I did. I really loved that dog more than words can say - I hate myself!
2006-09-29 16:03:10 · 17 answers · asked by crct2004 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
his name was Bo and he was so sweet and loving and my mom told me he got out and was hit hit by a car. I did not take good care of him like I should have. But I did love him and he would walk by my side without a leash and ...Bo, if I could go back...
2006-09-29 16:37:24 · update #1
Guilt is a very powerful emotion. The deed is done, you cannot undo it. I bet the dog still loved you anyway.
I had a similar occurrence with my little brother. I set him up to do something bad and then I smacked him in the face for doing it. For years it bothered me. finally, as adults, I told him about it and he laughed. He did not even remember it. I bet your dog would tell you the same thing if he could.
Actually it was a positive experience in the sense that you learned very young that you are not abusive. the fact that the guilt has stayed with you for so many years just proves this fact. And again, I reiterate that the dog probably forgot about after a short time.
2006-09-29 16:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was about eleven or twelve, my mother was with a very abusive man. He did do some physical abuse, but it was mostly emotional. He would make me feel so bad about myself, that I dropped from a straight A student to a D average, started cutting myself, and tried to take my own life on a few different occasions.
To get to the point, though, I did something horrible that I will never forget (besides almost shooting my stepfather in the back with a broadhead-tipped arrow...but that's another story). My sister had a kitten that annoyed me most of the time, so I harbored a little bit of hatred for the animal anyway. One day, though, my stepfather made me so angry I wanted to hit him. Since I knew I couldn't hit him, I took my anger out on my sister's kitten instead.
I actually placed the kitten in an empty pillow case, twisted the open end closed, and proceeded to swing the pillow case at my bedroom wall (probably about half a dozen swings). The kitten was not seriously injured, and went on to live a happy life (until she got out and got hit by a car a few years ago). I still feel bad about that, though, even though it has been around ten years. I now have three cats and two dogs and would never hurt them.
I still have urges to hurt myself on occasion (I went through another cutting bout a few months ago) but I find that hard liqour and illegally obtained prescription drugs keep things pretty well under control. Things have been a lot better lately.
2006-09-29 23:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by RobertK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many many such things. It does happen in everyone's life. Only a few fortunate ones have the capability to realise it. It is this realisation that really matters in life. It helps a person to evolve into a beautiful being, and without it, a life, a lifetime is wasted !
No need to hate oneself, because, it is lack of this awareness that we did something stupid in the past. Helping out others would give the needed consolation & joy to get over the sadness.
2006-09-30 04:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm, i know what you mean. i've been with my angel and a half of a guy for a year now. a couple of months ago we had major issues. i'd heard that he had been with this other girl whilst we were 2getha. i'm sure you can only begin to imagine how i felt. neways, i got mad at him and there was a time i said some stuff to him that was all lies, but that i knew would hurt him. anyways he was never with this other girl, has never cheated on me etc. to this day i just cant ever forgive myself for the stuff i said to him. it was wrong, but you know, i realise my wrongs. i've grown, they have made me grow up, now i know that i need to stop and think when i say stuff and not to just jump to conclusions. what you did was wrong, yes, but if you learnt from it and you truly are sorry, then there isnt much more you ca do about it. try let it go...
2006-09-30 06:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww...i feel soo bad for you..i know exactly how you feel...i think that the main reason why you feel bad is b/c you keep remembering his eyes....its ok tho, im sure the dog thought nothing but "oops i did something wrong, i hope my owner forgives me" and from then on was just really happy that you did...PLUS this will make you happy-dogs memories arent like ours..they dont remember that you slept in the same bed together the night before...they have habits but not memories like us...so ur pooch probably didnt remember this the day after...dont worry, you sound like a good person..you have to be if you feel this badly about something so small.....im pretty sure your puppy forgave you=) im almost positive....hope i helped..
2006-09-29 23:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by thatgirluknow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 14 my best friend stepped in front of a car when she was walking to her house with me. In some way I know there was nothing I could do but, I still harbor immense guilt.
2006-09-29 23:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. I had a similiar situation with a dog i had. I got mad at him one day for barking a lot, and smacked him sooo hard. I feel guilty for it, especially 4 years after his passing. It's caused a deep rift in my life, and i am seeing a counselor for it. When i see him again someday, after my death, i will be ever happy to be with him again!
2006-09-29 23:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by snafu1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change what happened but you can change your understanding of it. Here: you were trapped, scared, upset and kicked your dog. But you didn't hurt him. You just scared him. He knew you didn't mean it and loved you anyway, unconditionally. He has forgiven you. Why don't you do the same?
2006-09-29 23:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by slippped 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you do that . its so mean . even with that anger how could you take it out on a little poor dog. maybe it is good that you still think about . just so now you now you wont do anything like that again. Hopefully.
youll be fine as long as you no what you did was wrong , and that you wont do anything like that again.
2006-09-29 23:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by camilllionare 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing that you are doing is feeling remorse on what you did. I think that your dog appreciates that more than anything. You are sorry if you feel guilty and sorry for what you did.
2006-09-29 23:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by sugar507 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋