what would u do as a parent?

Question

My 12 yrs old and 13 yrs old want to go to a teen club on the weekend. it is a club for teenagers 12-18 only. it is for 5 hours. 7 to 12. do u think as a parent,i should allow my kids to go or do u think i would be doing the wrong thing and influencing them in the wrong direction. my kids are good students and i don't wanna corrupt them. what is your opinion.

Answer 1

Ok mom, Here's another mom to mom chat about our kids especially the pre-teen years. These are the years that kids notice others, from opposite genders, but we can't hold them down forever. As a parent, you and I have to direct our kids in the right direction, which talking to them about drugs and the "birds and the bees". Of course as a parent is our nature to worry, if we didn't then what good of a parent would we really be. Now the club is for 12-18 year olds, so alcohol you know is most certainly out of the question. I, as another parent to a 12 yr old boy, would let my son go to the club and let him experience what it is in growing up. Of course "Clubbing" the main reason why kids like to go is to "go check out a girl or boy", but in reality your teen may have a great time and come home and have a huge story to talk to you about. I see no harm in letting your teen go have a good time and of course, BE HOME ON TIME, OR ELSE!!!!!!!!...LOL
Best of Luck:;)

Answer 2

When i was i high school I went to a teen club a few times most people in my area that go are in high school and the few 12 and 13 yr olds that went were pressured in to a lot by older students and the adult supervision was pretty much non exsistant so there is no way i would let my kids go so young but thats my opinion

Answer 3

I went to a teen club while I was in high school and really liked it. I wish I hadn't dressed like a Valley Girl (showing my age here), because most of the kids there were a bit edgier, but it was still fun. There was good music and I saw a lot of kids from other schools. The only negative influence then was cigarette smoking. Too bad my friends didn't like it, because I would have liked to have gone back. Let your kids try it. Maybe not till midnight, but drop them off for a few hours and pick them up. Be positive and ask them how they enjoyed it. If you phrase your q's carefully, you'll get your answers. Also, can parents come inside?

Answer 4

That's way too late,we have teen clubs near our home(UK) and they end by 10pm,which are for 12 to 17yr olds.I know the drinking laws in the UK are different but 12pm for any 12 and 13 yr old is well too late.Maybe you could compromise and let them go only on the condition you pick them up at a suitable time,one that makes you both happy.

Answer 5

That is quite a difference in ages even though it's onlyh 6 years, most 18 year olds don't want to hang out with 12 year olds. I would let them go though for the experience and let them enjoy themselves. Maybe there will be an equal amount of kids at both ends of the age range. Just make sure they know they have to be home right after, wouldn't you be picking them up though? Tell them to have fun and let them know you wanna hear about it when they get home. Just so you know what goes on in case they want to go again and they might have exciting stories to tell who knows. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sure let them go, and bring along with you a good book so you can read it in the car while you wait for them to have a good time. Now, if you have 5 hours to give up I would highly recommend this. However, if you have more important things to do, and I'm sure that you do Mom, then I would tell the girls no. It is better to swim against the currents of life when you are parenting adolescents instead of swimming along side with them. Naturally, they will not appreciate your firm decision now, but later in life they will.

Answer 7

From one mom to another I think you should let them go. At this age friends are a very important part of their lives and you need to trust them unless they give u cause not to.This is a chance to see if what you have taught them so far has sunk in.I let my son go skating on the weekends with a group of his friends and i make sure he has his cell phone with him. He knows to check in at certain times and if he doesn't then the next weekend he stays home.We always have a blast just sitting and talking about his nite.Its a good way to keep the lines of communication open.

Answer 8

I don't think your 12 and 13 yeard ols are old enough. Most tee hangout places such as that club as frequented by high schoolers, and sending your middle-schoolers there might be the best for eeryone. Unless you are confident in your children, I would wait until they're atleast 14/15.

Answer 9

Hi, I am a mother of 3 and take care of my neice who is now 16. Kids now days dont have much to do and if you have good kids and trust them talk to them about their responsibilities and give them a chance. let them go and have fun. since it is a teen club there wont be any alcohol to worry about for one and i am sure there is many adults there to keep eye on everything or they wouldnt be able to have this club. if you keep your kids from having fun then one day they will rebell and go behind your back and do the things us parents dread to hear about like drugs, drinking, and sex.

Answer 10

We had a club like this where I grew up. I went there and never got in any trouble. Some people I knew did though. I think it depends on your kids. You know if you can trust them or not. If you can, then I say it's ok.